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I really like it that you didn't do like many women in such a situation saying "I trust my husband and there is no way he is doing this". You're such a smart woman. I suggest that you talk to a specialist and see what s/he will tell you about how to make sure whether your husband is abusing your son(s) or not.
Good luck
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