I think you should go for some counseling. This is very hurtful and traumatic for you and you should find someone to help you to find a more healthy way to deal with it. It is really a matter of helping you to put this into the past and getting on with your life. Advice is not enough, you need professional help. Good Luck!!

This seems to be a norm in the younger generation......How long were you dating her?  How did the romance between them started and what was her reason for dating your best friend?  With this information I can give you better advice.

Neverthless, I would treat it in love, just be yourself.  I would also get involved in a hobby eg. working out, biking, maybe taking up a class in an instrument that you might like, eg. panio, drums, guitar etc. maybe even singing lessons do something that will take your mind off of them and keep yourself very busy.  Now I would forgive yet I would be cautious with your next girlfriend and keep your eyes open in your relationship.

Sometimes good friends hang out to much with their girlfriends and the relationship gets to close that it can lead to deeper feelings.

Yet, she left you for him so accept it and move on.  If she really loved you she would not lay eyes on someone else.  Also maybe she was lacking something in your relationship that she found in him.  You really need to examine the relationship and see what went wrong so you can be more attentive and careful for you next relationship.  It's not just how you should handle what happen, but try to figure out why it happen.  This will show you your weak areas in a relationship and you strong points.

So take a piece of paper and jot down all you could remember neg. & pos. so you can learn how to handle woman.  This will open your eyes to what should and what shouldn't be done in a relationship.  Many times we focus on what happen, yes, but why did it happen to begin with.  So just be a nice person and use caution for the next time.  Let me know how you make out.  Blessings, Yolanda

If she cared about you then she would not do this to you it is some times called teen looking or she may have a problem with you. As like the saying goes the grass is greener on the other side of the fence if she feels that way let her go. As many teens and younger women have to shop around to fiind what she wants some try the other guy as he may be more popular than you. As there is no real answer as to why this happens possable your looks your build or possable the way you dress. Ask your self why?????? then write down her posative features and the negative then look over this list carefully. Then also do the same abuot your self then compair the two as your a person also look at your self whould you date a person such as you??????? But the best advice you can get at this point is move on as this may be your answer you are looking for.

Albert , I am sorry that you are hurt . I agree with the others . If this girl cared for you then she would not be dating someone else .  Perhaps it would help you to talk to someone .  As for your friend , were you and your X GF already broke up when they started ?  If not you may want to think about the character of not only this girl but your so called friend as well. The girl for you is out there , she is looking for you as well .  I wish you the best .

She;s moved on. You haven't. You need to.

I Sorry your hurt Albert, many of us know that feeling of seeing your guy or girl with one of your best buddies. It Sucks! But This to shall pass.. My advise to you is not to hate them or shut them out be friendly but you don't have to be best buds with either of them. To hang around and watch them cuddled together is just torture so cut them loose for a while go do something else. Something that will put you in a new circle of people. Meet new people make more friends maybe even another girl friend. When your heart has had some time to heal and isn't so broken then maybe you can continue your friend ship with the two of them if you choose.

This doesn't make either of them bad people its part of life and learning and growning. Our trials make us stronger. The sooner you decide to let go of her the sooner you will meet someone else and the less you will sufer. Good luck

Be nice be kind be friendly and forgive but you don't have to punish yourself. Find a new girl and another best friend.

I have a different take on the situation... I believe in firm boundaries and I would never date someone that a friend dated and my friends feel the same.  It's an unspoken rule....In my opinion, if this guy was truly a friend of yours, he would have steered clear of your ex, especially knowing how you feel about her.  They say keep your friends close and your enemies closer but I wouldn't waste my time thinking someone was a friend, knowing they had no respect for clear boundaries.  I place all the people in my life in one of two categories;  those who add to my life and those who take from it.  Not friends & enemies but friends & acquaintances.  My friends are those who I trust with everything...the acquaintances are everyone else.

 I wouldn't ignore them, but I would think of them as acquaintances... certainly not best friends.  I see no reason to torture yourself with trying to be 'friends' with people who are causing you heartache.  

No one can tell you what to do here, so you will have to follow your heart.  This is that place in life where you have to figure out who you are, who your friends are, and what your boundaries are.  We've all been there & these things take time.  In the end, I'm sure you will come up with what is right for you.