I have been married for five yrs.to the man of my ...

There are only two reasons he would want you to stay for the week-end.  He loves you and misses you and the children.  In which case he never would have left in the first place.  The other reason is that he misses what you could do for him and thinks you could satisfy that desire by 'visiting' him.  He left you.  Don't run back at his beck and call.  Make him crawl back to you on hands and knees begging forgiveness. It wasn't you that left him high and dry with 2 children to care for and not be concerned how you were going to do that.  Hold out for the apology.  Be strong and insist he earn back the trust you once had for each other.  Then and only then should you open your heart to him again.

Hi Lenabug,
You have a good chance to bring him back to you.  Asking you to join him in the weekrnd is a good possitive sighn (that he still loves you and wants to be with you). 
1.  Stop (ENTIRELY !!!) your will to argue. 
2.  Sort out what made him so mad (it's not only those arguements).
3.  Be nice to him, make him feel really good. 
4.  Make him feel you love him and miss him.
5.  Make him feel thathis place is with you and kids.
6.  Tell him you are ready and willing to go an extra mile for him.
7.  Don't say any word on returning home (he has to do it).
Good luck and best regards,

Sweetie, if he were truly the man of your dreams he would not have walked out on you and the children.

Furthermore, he would not be laying all of the blame upon you for his doing so.

Someone who is the man of your dreams would be man enough to discuss things with you so that you could try to reach a solution, TOGETHER.

That being said, I agree with OronD that his wanting you and the children to come for the weekend is potentially a good sign.

I say you should go ahead and go. And while you are there, do your best not to argue or pick at him - but instead, try to channel the feelings and behaviors that made you fall in love with each other in the first place.

And then, at some point during the weekend, I think you should tell him that you love him and you would like to be able to work things out. Tell him that you understand his explanation of what was bothering him, but that any relationship takes LUST in order to be successful.

LUST is an acronym. It stands for Love, Understanding, Sex and Trust. With a little LUST plus some honest communication (with the help of a counselor, if necessary) the two of you should be able to get back on track - if that is what you both want. (If he doesn't want to make the effort, I'm afraid there's nothing you can do.)

Good luck!

Please dont Go!! He left you didnt hear from him for a whole month! and then after that he blames you!? He didnt leave because of you, he left because he wanted to. It took him a whole month to come up with that lie! He has been doing his thing for a whole month, it didnt work out, so he called you! He told you he had no feelings for you, so why does he want you out there? let those children be with their father, and you stay home and save your face! he should be the one trying to figure out how in the world he is gonna get you back? But is he? Nope! He told you to bring your A$$, and thats what you are gonna do! He knows he has you like that, and he is gonna use it to the fullest! Know your worth, you sound like a good woman, and mother! Know your worth

Fights are a normal part of any marriage. But always remember to fight fairly. Ask yourself this, Do you react to everything? Even the smallest things? Talk to your husband and iron out things, let out your frustrations and above all listen. Keep a clear head and admit it if you're in the wrong. Ask him to do the same as well.

If i were you as if it has happened once it will happen again let him go move on with your life there are better men out there find one who appreacetes you for who you are not a one night stand and a free piece of a-- for one night.

Honey you will be a good one night stand for him or are you listening to what you want to??????????????? As the truth will come out and if it were your children what would you tell them stop and think think long and hard before you answer this question.

Hey LenaBug

 Some of the answers are great.  PICK AND CHOOSE YOUR BATTLE.  I know its hard and its eaiser said than done, Act as if you know what you're doing. Men do not like to argue or like argumentive, weak women or someone that no longer looks attractive.  If you let your inner and outter beauty not matter because of the kids, and I know its easy to do. Start to dress up,put make up on, look good for yourself &  make him think you are adjusting to him being gone. DONT GROVEL. Have your homones checked out. I had a thyroid condition that made me explosive towards my husband to the point where we were going to split. Find your spiritual side and trust in your self. Build your self confidence up and be strong for your kids.  Your kid are the most import part of this game. Don't Be the Old Shoe.  Stay happy, sexy & beautiful.  ASK YOURSELF, If he acted like you, mad and agrumentive, would you want to be around. Its a form of verbal & mental abuse.   WE CAN DO BAD ALL BY OURSELVES we dont need help from our spouse. I Dont mean to sound Crass, it is what it is. You have to like who you are to make others happy including your kids.  We all have a breaking point, boundires. Some need an excuse & some have a low tolerance.  Who, How and what you do want to BE?