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Do you tell your teenager that you have heard that other kids think that they are arrogant?  All I see at home is that he is lonely and wishes that he would be invited out. 


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OhThePlacesYoullGo
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You have brains in your head, feet in your shoes, you can steer yourself in any direction you choose. 

-Dr. Seuss 

I think that you need to make sure, as a parent, that you child is not acting arrogant.  Think of a couple good movies that demonstrate how arrogance ruins people, and tell him that you would like to watch the movies with him and talk to him about them.  If not you, who will teach him?  If kids think this, than it is most likely true.  Be there for him, like a friend.  Watch the way he behaves carefully.  Make sure he knows that he should be confident, but that being overly-confident isn't healthy. 

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Thanks for your resonse.  I think that he is in a tough place.  I can see how kids think this because he has been pretty successful in his interests.  He tries out for parts in plays and makes most of them.  He is a talented dancer and singer, too.  He is straight and constantly has to reinforce that too...He hasn't been cast in a few things, too and has handled it fine.  I am sure that it is very hard for him to know how to handle it.  Humility and confidence are very hard to balance.  Any suggestions on movies??  Thanks again!
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I think that sports movies that emphasize team values and sometimes selflessness are a good idea.  The idea I think, is to teach him the value of certain personality characteristics.  You don't want to lower his self-esteem or anything like that.  I would watch Glory Road, Bridge to Terabithia, Remember the Titans, Mighty Ducks... just talk to him about what the positive qualities are in major characters in the movie.  These are wonderful movies and I think that they are very humbling.  They also help to teach how to best get along with other people.  I hope this helps.  Good luck.  Let me know how it goes.
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I will...once again THANK YOU.  I am feeling bad that I may even have nurtured this even a little.  I have always told him how proud I am of him but I always emphasize the value of humility too.  It is difficult to know where to draw the line of informing and bragging about your children.  If you don't answer people's questions about your children, they think that you are stand offish or rude.  If you do answer questions or just let people know about things going on, they might think that you are bragging...
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It doesn't sound like this is your fault or anything.  All parents are proud of their kids and it's perfectly normal to even brag about them to family members or other parents.  Sometimes though, they just need to be brought down to earth a bit.  I wouldn't worry too much.  It's good that you care and that you've noticed.  Now you can do your best to make sure he is the best person as possible.  Good luck.

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The best thing you can do is be honest, truthful with your teenager , in trun he or she will be honest , truthful with you.
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