I can't seem to stop getting involved with guys that are no good for me. I have had three long term relationships in the last 12 years. The first started when I was 17 and ended when I was 22, two years after we got married, he couldn't keep a job so I supported us and then when I lost weight and started going to collage I had an affair that never became too serious. He found out (because I wanted him to), I wanted him to leave, he clung to me untill I left and we had a painful drawn out divorce. Then I met bad guy #2 while living in the collage dorms, he never told the whole story about anthing so I knew right away that he was a looser but I was so lonely I stayed with him. At one point we were doing well, he had a job I would be graduating soon and we were happy so we decided to have a baby. After 1 and a half years of withoug sucess I was giving up on him due to no job, lies,drugs, ect.. And then I found out I was pregnant, terrified of being alone we tried to work things out and it was not too bad but I could not trust him to watch our child while I worked (cus he was a pot head) so I kicked him out, baby went to day care and I stayed single for year. The next guy I met at my job, he was hard working and successful and seemed very willing to take care of me and although he had no experience with kids he indicated he would do his best with my daughter. So we moved in and low and behold he is a functioning alcoholic who likes nothing better then to yell and argue with me when he is drunk. I put up with that B.S. for a month and I am moving tomorrow, I am still on good terms with him and he feel terrible for the way things turned out and he is even helping me out financialy even though it is well established that we are no longer a couple. The point is why do I keep ending up with these guys that are so bad for me, I can't seem to stop even though I recognize this attaraction (granted its usually too late when I recognized I have fallen for a bad guy again). I am educated, attrative, not as crazy as I used to be. I know I have self esteme issues but who doesn't. What can I do to stop my self from getting involved with these destructive partners?
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