What is up with an ex that says she needs to heal ...

She may be dating these other men as distractions. When me and my first love broke up I starting dating other guys right away. I know this hurt him a lot because I told him that I needed time and space to heal. I did not really care about these rebound guys, but I NEEDED something to take my mind off of him. It was a hard breakup and me dating other guys did not make my feelings for him subside in any way.

Hi,
There are two possibilities:
1.  She moved on and is trying 2B nice. 
2.  She is doing it in purpose, to "show
     you" that she can easily find someone
     else and if you won't do what she
     expects (commitment ?), and soon,
     that will be the end of your story.....
Best regards,

So what?  Let her do whatever she wants to do.  She is your EX.

Wow i have a problem just like this.  Girlfriend for two years and we broke up because of my deployment and then she started dating some other guy who i used to work with after telling me she had to get over me.  Then he changed his phone number because she kept calling him and he didnt want to be with her anymore.  Ironic huh?  Anyways she ended up telling me that she went out with him because he was different then me and she wanted to try and forget about me.  So i guess i agree with what sara 411 said as the first response up there

I agree with most of the above.  It could be a distraction.  If my husband and I split up (I wish) I would start dating again.  Mostly because he's an incredible bore (not that you are, sorry, that sounded bad) but dating for women is not always about finding another boyfriend.  I mean, if you were dating, would you be looking to just go out and have a good time, or a new relationship?  She very well could be healing, but doesn't want to do it alone.  Not always the healthiest option, but reality.  I guess the real question is, do you want to let her go?  If you do, just go on and heal yourself.  It really would be best to concentrate on YOU right now.  Then, if she wants you back, it's even that much more enticing to see that you've taken care of YOU and made yourself that much better.  Does that make any sense?  I hope so.