My boyfriend's ex has recently initiated contact. She has a boyfriend now, but has been making a lot of effort to try to be "friends". Should I be worried?
I think it is how your boyfriend is responding to her contacts that should worry you............
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Hi,Yes you should be worried..... some people tend to re-live the past.... some like to return to familiar places.... some like to return to familiar feelings.... some simply try to see if they still atract there ex (to build the self esteem)..... and some try to show the new partner that they are worth more...... Now it all depends how your parter responds. If he plays a possitive part or encourages it, you should be very worried..... if he is passive, you should make it clear that you don't like that situation.... and best is if he rejects it..... Best regards,
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If you trust him then you should let him tell her that it will never be anymore that is if he really loves you , only wants you but in all the same basis do not stress it but do be aware of the out comes that may come , already their , if the ones that are already there do not feel right to you then leave him because as you know that people in the female gender that I have noticed are very convencing but he may not fall for it , if it feels or seems as he is then say its eaither her or me , if he can not truely answer it then say nice knowing you , leave him.
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I would think that you are naturally going to be a little worried reguardless of the answers you get here... But... First off how strong is your relationship; is it new or settled? What about their relationship? Who ended it, him or her? My advice whould be to address your concern to him honestly. Try to approach the conversation so that it doesn't come across as accussing. Don't give him an ultamatum expecially if you feel he hasn't persued her. DON"T START A FIGHT... This could give her an upper hand if she has the intent to rekindle a flame. Give him some time after you have expressed your concerns. Hopefully he cares enough about you to find away to ease your anxiety. If at any point you feel that their relationship is becoming to frequent or crossing the line, you should reevaluate your relationship. Don't be so nieve that you let her have her way but if you trust him... give him his space to choose you again.
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I think it's important that you trust your boyfriend and tell him how you feel and that you're a little weary about his contact with her. You can tell him that being a woman, you know that while she may have boyfriend, she is more than likely trying to find out if there's an opportunity to re-kindle the former flame. Let your boyfriend make the decision about whether he will try to be "friends" with her but make sure he knows how you feel about the whole situation.
not necessarily... when people are in a long relationship they becoem good friends and share a lot more with each other. so he might not love her in the way he loves you now and even she might not but they have shared some good times and probably feel that they value each other and want to be in touch.. it might not have anything sexual to it so dont feel jealous , it might work against you by turning off ur bf.
You should worry, no offense. My ex has been telling me that he is still in love with me and wishes we dated and bla bla...he met her when he thought I didnt want him when I went on vacation to california...and now he tells me how good I look all the time...but yethe has her convinced he doesnt want me anymore because she lives closer to him and he doesnt want to be alone. I live an hour away and he doesnt want to make the effort, not to mention she looks like a sewer rat. Find out more about her and look for the "convienience factor". he even told me he would still "have sexual relations " with me but hes trying to do the right thing... guys suck. you might also want to make sure that SHE is the one trying to make contact with HIM and not the other way around. because in my case, this guy insists on being friends with ME. believe me I have said many things (most of them mean) because hes kind of a jerk, but he wont give up, its like he HAS to be friends with me for some reason...its really wierd...love is crazy...I hope your relationship works out though. goodluck
Yes, her real motivation is to get him back again. Ex should be just that (the past), but unfortunately for you, your boyfriend is not being upfront & man enough to tell her to get lost. Dump him because he is allowing her in and does not have respect for you.
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