Im engaged to someone who looks at porn behind my ...

Hi,

What is important is the love he has for you and your (his and your) child. Watching porn does not mean that he is unfaithful. Give him time without constantly complaining and he might even outgrow the need to watch.

Watching porn has nothing to do with you! Do not mix between the two. Even when married each partner should have his own privacy. Watching porn is his own private world. This is how he enjoys himself and it doesn't have anything to do with his love towards you.  What if he masturbates?  does this means he doesn't love you any more?  No, it normal and better that you don't interfere  his privacy and let him be. My suggestion ask him to watch it together  and see how your sex life will change.

ask to watch the video with him to see what turns him on then you can try out the things on each other i bet this will enhance your relationship and open it up for role playing, stop stressing and join in before he finds someone else to explore fantasies

hi,

i think you should give him som more sex and ask why is he doing that

and don't feel a how all men go through tha when they reached a sertin age.

hi,

hmm,i don't have anything against a guy looking at porn,i mean we all like to look at beautiful bodies,who doesn't?that doesn't mean that he is thinking about the girls he sees in the magazinesor DVDs!Let's say,you see an extremely attractive man,you notice it,admire it,and that's that!do you think about the attractive man you've seen when you're making love to your fiance?Even i have watched some porn in my life and i have to say,that i learned a couple of things to enhance my lovemaking!When i see the attractive men on porn,do i dream of them?do i see them and not my husband?No!!A lot of us have extra pounds on us,but the people who love us,love US,not the body,not the beauty,but US the person behind the beauty and body!

i don't want to sound harsh, but maybe the reason he's looking at porn is because of the weight you gained?

Did you have a child with your fiance' or with someone else?  You may need some time to discover more about yourself before getting married.  Know who "you" are and who "he" is before considering marriage, if you want a "long-term" relationship.

You cannot change other people, but you can work on your own insecurities and ask yourself "why do I feel this way?"  Are you comfortable with your sexuality?  Is he comfortable with his sexuality?  Are we a good fit or do I need to look further?

The reason he lies is because you are making him feel guilty for looking.  One should love their body, not be ashamed of it.  True love comes from within yourself.  If you have not "discovered who you are," then you are probably not ready for marriage.  There is no room for jealousy in a healthy relationship!