Should I end this relationship?

You have simply chosen the wrong guy. What sane woman would want a relationship with a guy who has told her he already has a girlfriend in another country? I have to question your motives, logic, and frankly your desperation in wanting a relationship at all costs.

Hi,

This is not your fault, so you have been scarred from your past relationship, He should understand that.After reading your story if my boyfriend youll just have to trust him because if he truley loved you he wouldent do ANYTHING to hurt you. Just because he has a couple of friends that are girls dosent mean you have to get all worried. Maybe you should go with him to see his old friend just to make sure.

First of all, he had a "girlfriend" in another country.  That should tell you something right there. He tells you that things have changed between him and her, and that you are the only person in his life.   Unfortunately, he tells this to all of his girl-friends, potential girl-friends, girl-friend at the moment, etc.,  After reading your post, it certainly does not sound as if you are the only person in this man's life. If you know for certain that he talks to many girls on-line and on the phone, why have you gotten pretty serious with him?  If you are the "only person" in his life, then why is he talking to all of these other women and/or involved with them in any way in the first, second or third place?  Think about it -- If he IS serious about a committed relationship with you, and you only, why is he talking and flirting and very possibly (sexually) involved with so many other women?  He even has plans to go visit one of them for a few days?  Really?  --  Hmmm --  Why?  To get to know her better?  -- To spend time with her?  --- (Please Notice that while he is doing this, that he is not spending this time with you) -- And, if he is spending time with her, he is ultimately becoming "To Involved" with her -- so that kind of leaves you out of the picture here.  --And you are sitll serious with this guy?  --What do you think he is planning on with you?  --A future?  He tells you -- "You just need to trust him?" Why? --To give him time to decide if you are the one for him by going out with or becoming involved with other Women? Won't happen soon.  You said that the bottom line, is, "I don't trust him!"  --  "So, Why are you still with him then?"  -- Guess What?  I don't trust him either.  Sorry, Honey, This guy is not a keeper.  You deserve a lot better. 

I was in a relationship just like yours. He had alot of female friends and swore that he wasn't doing anything when in reality he was. He didn't want to settle down but he didn'twant me to leave him either. The choice was mines. And as much as it hurt me i had to walk away. As long as i was okay with things being the way that it was he was fine too. He wanted his cake and eat it too. It's not healthy to stay with a person that can't commit to you and you only. You deserve that much. A person like that will end up either two ways and that is , with a disease that they can't get rid of or old and lonely because running around with different people all the time is played out and that don't last very long. I let that loser go months ago and now i have someone that only want me and me only. There is someone out there for you. There is a saying that goes, what one man won't do the next one will. Love is not one sided. Dump that loser and move on to find real love.    Good luck

I think he's playing a lot of fields right now. Get rid of him before you really get hurt. He just wants as many girls on a string as he can get at one time. Big ego trip he's going through. Get rid of him, and tell him the reason. You don't need the extra baggage. Good Luck, and next time pick someone who doesn't have to flaunt his other girls in your face.

You should have asked yourself these questions when he cheated on his girlfriend with you in the first place. Don't look back. Good luck!

My granddaughter was in a relationship like this, this yr. and she was getting the same thing he had a girl in another state but he and my granddaughter went to school together and she loved him and he finally ask her out then started telling her he loved her more than the other girl and he had plans to go spend a week wit he and her family so he could tell that girl it was over but when he came back he told her after she gave in to his sexual advances that he was going to marry the other girl and it just crushed Mary,but she let him use her for sex and she met another person and left him alone. So I would think maybe to think on it but be careful because it is very hard to tell anything anymore. I hope everything works well but I feel the same way if you are what he wants he needs to drop the other girls.

you have the right to not trust him because you've been hurt. that's natural, but you should go with you're first mind. if these "friends" are "just friends" then maybe you should suggest inviting them over to observe how they act towards eachother. or just simply bring up the idea of meeting one of his "friends" and see how he acts. if there are discrepancies, then there are problems. without trust, you have nothing. so do wat i've suggested and see how he acts, and you'll know by his reaction. if they're secrets, then they're not friends.