Should I end this relationship?

Hi,

     After reading your story, I think that this man is not ready for a serious commitment to you.  You just have 2 choices:

1.  To stay with him and to be continually not trusting him and always be hurt emotionally and run the risk of getting any STD's from him.

2.  To be brave and to get out of the relationship so you'll have peace of mind.  He is not faithful.  Your hope that he will change will be futile.  You deserve a faithful loving man who will commit to you.

      You are the only one who can finally decide for yourself.  That's your choice.

Hey

I can't tell you if you should end it or not.That's your decision .You said red flags are popping up everywhere.That should say something in itself.He knows that what he is doing upsets you and he continues to do it anyway.Is that the way you want to be treated ?I would have to agree with dogbreeder.You deserve better.If this guy truly loved you and was ready to commit ,he should be willing to do whatever it takes to make you happy.Pay more attention to what he does, instead of what he says.

Great  answer, Bob, 2 thumbs up to you!

U already know the answer to your question.. Maybe U were hoping that one of us would tell U that U should stay with him??!! Sorry huney not happen..U know the answer inside your heart .. So trust your heart & your mind .. togeather they will give U what U seek... Peace & Good Luck 2 U !!

Hi Lady Bird,

   Insightful answer !!! 2 thumbs up to you.

I see your boyfriend as somebody who's on an enormous quest to find "The One", and he searches everywhere he can.  It appears that he realizes that you two are very close and that you never did anything wrong to deserve this, but he wants to continue his search anyway.  Somehow, deep within his subconscious he is searching for a certain type of woman that he can't quite define; it's as if her shadow is lurking in the far reaches of a hidden place, but chances are she's nothing more than a distant memory of a celebrity such as Cindy Crawford or Kate Moss.

I suspect that he's already in a relationship with the woman he plans to visit.  They have a long distance relationship by email and over their cell phones, and they're planning to treat his visit as their honeymoon. 

You have every right to know how bad your situation is.  Tonight send him an email that looks like this:  "Please email me the password to your email account right now.  I do not want to discuss the reason why I want it."  He'll instantly know what's up, and he will delete his entire inbox before he gives it to you.  When you open his email account, press on the "Trash" button, or the "Deleted Files" button, or whatever they call it. 

Certain email carriers allow their subscribers to permanently delete trash so that it can not be retrieved.  If you have $100 to spend, take his computer to a repair shop and tell the technician that you have deleted email on your hard drive that you need to retrieve (for a project at work).  They can retrieve anything that has been deleted on his computer.

Chances are your boyfriend won't relinquish his password or his computer.  Instead he'll break up with you because it's easier than dealing with you after you've read his deleted email.  He'll accuse you of being jealous and unreasonable.  He'll ask you why you want it a million times as if he's 10 years old.  Be prepared for all of it.  Just say that you don't want to discuss it, and you simply want his password and his computer.  If he breaks up with you, than say that you don't need to see his computer anymore, but that you never, ever want to hear from him again under any circumstances.  Not on Christmas, not 3 weeks from now, not a year from now.  Never, ever.

There was a movie that was sort of like this called "Little Black Book", starring Brittany Murphy.  It's a romantic comedy, but in the end she left her boyfriend because he was still attached to one of his ex girlfriends.

run girl, as fast as ur legs will go.if he luved u as much as he claims, he wouldn't bvisiting another girl 4 a few days(or at all) without u. He'd b introducing u 2 every-1. Not hiding u. It would b easier 2 walk away now than 2 wait. The longer ur with him, the more crap ur gonna go thru & the more screwed up ur gonna b. No-1 should b treated like a standby.

Are you a jealous, possessive person or do you have a real reason not to trust him? Did he ask you not to see other people or do you just wish he was not seeing anyone but you? Maybe you have misunderstood how he feels about you. Ask him exactly what kind of relationshio he wants to have with you and if he wants to see other people, you do the same. You cant FORCE him to be faithful to you.