You seem to be handed the trump card when he had his'" three strikes and your out" final shopping spree. What made him feel that he always had to steal or have people steal for him? Sounds like he's a little looney tunes to me. Now you know what has to be done while he is away. Run, don't walk to get away from that place as far and fast as you can. The children need you deperately and to be honest, you need them more than you ever will know. Make your life count for something positive now and be the guiding light for your kids. Don't have any contact with him whatsoever.Wipe the slate clean once and for all. Good luck, and you can do it.