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I don't know if I'm being emotionally abused ...

My husband is truck driver so he never home. I and my husband got married 2 month ago; he got me a very expensive wedding ring took to Vegas for 3 days and on the way home he asked me something regarding that night when we was just talking on the phone the night when I went to see my friends, I said I actually wasn’t there I was with some guy , old friend with who we use to hung out ( I call him Alex) , he got so pissed at me like I cheated on him and said that I lied to him before and that I should told him thru before we got married. Well at this time we didn’t even see each other, just phone talks J next He told my mom and my best friend that he thinks I still in love with my ex husband and he actually ask me why I married him? Then I found out that he went on my web page ( like Facebook) and read all my conversations with the people in my friends list, and then he made up story that Alex told every one that I’m a s**ut and I want to hung out with him. I wrote to Alex a message how he can do this to me?’ of course he said it’s not true because he is adult person and know me for 9 years already. So my husband was very mad at me for doing this we talk and look like get over that. Then he bough me a new car, I trade in my car because he was saying my car is peace of shit and my car was 2006 scion. Then he start controlling me like what cloth should I wear and saying I can wear skirt because it short and I work with a lot of guy ( and I work there 2 years and 2 month) . He keep calling me at work 20 times a day asking me questions like what do I eat today, what do I wear, what time I went to sleep. When he is in town he checks my car for scratches, dust e t c. At my friends house he said that I can drink only 1 shot because I have to work next day. And last time I went to my mom house to help her and told him that I’m going to at my mom’s place I’ll give you call later, so he called me about 5 times in 3 hours asking what I am doing, last time I didn’t pick up the phone because I was busy so I just send him text message that I’m busy. I went to the bathroom and heard my phone ringing again so I ask my mom to answer. She did and it was my husband wondering why I can pick up the phone. My mom explained to him and said that I’m going to call him later. Well I went outside to put my daughter bicycle in a trunk and he call me again he was very angry because I didn’t call him back. So we fight about this. He called mom my and left a nasty message for her like she was covering me for something, and he don’t understand what’s going on. He called me stupid 3 time and childish because I refuse to talk to him after that. I decided file for divorce because seem to me I do every thing wrong and he is a brilliant. Once I told him that he is wrong when he was flirting with cashier at Mcdonalds and that was a last time . Please help have no idea what to do?

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kpopp

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Yes, marriage isn't easy! But you know that already. Sometimes, when you explain things, you have to explain things over and over again. That's one reason. The other reason is that often he has a different idea than you. Then you have to explain to him why you did what you did and may be the next time you could do things differently and he would understand that things can not always go his way. So this goes back and forth until you both get used to each other and know more about the way the other behaves. Check out my website for more info on how to get along.

Posted 2009-08-21T19:48:01Z

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Well sweet, I was a trucker from 1968-2007. When a man is gone a month at a time from his wife there is going to be trouble. You will be treated the same way or worse over the years. I have seen your story over and over again and it's always a sad ending. I was married 35 years and i never would think my wife would cheat on me but she did and i found out she had been cheating for years. I would never tell someone to be a truck driver or to marry one. Sorry but true. Good Luck. Thx Gary

Posted 2009-08-21T20:32:10Z

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If what you say is true ...he has personal issues of insecurity and irresponsibility to a marriage.

1) He marries you quickly. He wants what He wants now!

2) He keeps of list of broken rules to use against you ...even rules you did know you broke BECUZ you did not even know him yet...

3) He now has say so over you, he will decide right and wrong for you ......but you can't do the same with him (you can't flirt but he can)

4) You must keep the highest standards or you are a */^# but he is wounded , he is away...he is working, he has Legitimate excuses for why he does something you DO NOT he decides.

5) His mission is to lower you to the world for trying to stay healthy...or keep things fair...he will convince you and all those around you that you are a B----, you are crazy, if he can convince you then he will stop because you finally accepted you are worthless , so since you are worthless for yourself , you still are responsible to be useful and to be a good wife to him, plus you maybe good exposure for him...why is he this way?

Cuz he is just a Big Baby. Spoiled and selfish, scared to lose what he has manipulated to get....but he wants more now, he is bored or figety. Now you better turn back into the toy he can set on the shelf because he is done playing house with you, and having things the way you want them , now he is taking back what you thought was both of yours. Power and control ...now he has you ...he is taking his stuff back ...but you are a part of his stuff. Once the selfishness comes back so does the greed all about him don't ya see....and the rules only apply to you!!!

love is sacrafice and long suffering for each other... but with these guys, it is everything for him or that will be your fault too!

If you love to give ....and live on high anxiety then this is going to workout...

You must be also willing to give him away cuz if he wants someone else ...at first he'll be sorry but then that will be your fault too!

Sorry I may be a little jaded but I see a pattern with these little darling self centered devils!

Posted 2009-08-31T06:50:43Z

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kristine kirkwood

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Live everyday like it's your last chance. Never live with regrets.

hey i am responding to your question.

Baby you should get out of that relationship before you lose your life.

I am telling you this from personal experience, and for you and your daughter to be safe. You do not need a man like that.

Posted 2009-11-16T18:09:12Z

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