ok, so i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we have had problems every now and then just like most couples. well just recently i found out that he had not been home when he was supposed to be, i confronted him about it and he gave me a long list of lies. first he said he had been sleeping, then it went to he was playing ps3, then to him driving to another town about 30 min away to meet up with a "life coach" to talk about his problems at work, when i asked for this life coach's name he gave me a name. i still didn't believe him and i googled it turns out the name of the man he gave is the vice president of the company he works for, (so obviously not a life coach), when i confronted him about this he gave me another name, when i didn't believe him he said he had gone to a clinic to get a physical done b/c he had gone to talk to a marine recruiter....... at 8 pm?? Days of crying came b/c at that point obvioiusly i didn't believe him, to me the worst came to mind and he was cheating. what bothered me was that it didn't bother him to see me hurt. i then gave him the option either to tell me the truth and we'll work out whatever it is he told me or we would break up. i gave him the option to tell me or write to me... he wrote. turns out he met up after work with a male coworker, b/c my bf is a dj and this coworker also works with music they were going to work on some stuff together. well the coworker took him to a park and it turns out the coworker is gay and kissed my bf. my bf felt ashamed and didn't want to tell me, now he also told me that as a kid he had been sexually abused by a male cousin, please tell me how does this tie into this event with his coworker? to me it is either b/c it brought memories or at this point is questioning his sexuallity. (we haven't had much intimacy since then).
not only that but i had not been feeling well and i went to the doctor i had a lot of discharge and it had been going on for a couple of weeks, which to me wasn't normal. the day after i found out about his coworker, my doctor called me and told me he had some bad news, i had chlamydia.... once again i start crying, he was getting ready for work and as i am still talking to my doctor i tell my bf that our relationship is over, he looks confused... once i am off the phone i confront him about that and he kept trying to convince himself and me that it wasn't him and that i had not gotten it from him... when he had told me weeks before he had been noticing some changes in his genitals?? and i know i couldn't have gotten it from anyone else because i haven't been intimate with anyone besides him... as he is leaving for work i ask him who had he been messing around with.... he looks at me and tells me it happened when he had gone back to venezuela to visit his family.... he and a friend had a couple of drinks and his friend offered to pay a prositute so that he could have to some fun.... that she had only given him oral sex and that is probably how he got it.... i don't believe it.... just oral sex, is it possible to get chlamydia from oral sex???
then his ex girlfriend contacts me, and tells me that four months into our relationship he had cheated on me with her, through webcam... when i confront him about this he looks shocked and tells me its true... i put it off to the side b/c i had been a while so.... but it doesn't change the fact that we were together at the time.
i found out about all of this in a period of 3 days. during all of this when i questioned him, he would tell me i was crazy, insane, that i either believed him or not.... he would see me cry and he would look at me like i was really crazy and would ask me "what is wrong with you"? like having emotions and crying was something bad...
i forgave him, and we are still together.why i don't know.... it still hasn't hit me i guess... love maybe?? i know i love him, but does he love me? his behavior doesn't show it.... and why i can't see??
