After 15 yrs of marriage my wife wanted a divorce ...

Usually I would say don’t read so much into things. Not in this case. Read on! She’s up to something. She wants to get all her soldiers in place before she makes her move. She asked for that divorce, and then someone started talking in her ear. If you’ve got money or something else that she wants, be sure that she’s working on a way to secure her exit. She could also be trying to do things to make it look like she tried to save the marriage. While separated, she may suggest counseling, even if she doesn’t really want to save the marriage. She may be setting you up to look like the bad guy and is in need of more time to do so. Be afraid my friend. Be very afraid.

acutally,I don't know.But I think..u must to go counseller.u must care & love ur wife than before.you can go to the time u started to love her and give warm hug

Jonas is probably right on the money with his answer, HOWEVER, she could be having second thoughts herself.  I don't think it would hurt for you to be very careful while treading in these murky waters.  Good Luck.

If your state laws require a period of time for a couple to be separated prior to granting a divorce a legal separation is the method for doing this. A legal separation, which is court ordered, addresses division of property, alimony, child support, custody, visitation and every other point of contention. The divorce itself occurs, usually one year, after the date of legal separation and in many cases is a mere formality.

Legal separations state that each party is free and clear to pursue all other interests except, of course, remarriage. brijoe, take my word for it, she's on her way out if she pursues the separation so my advice is to consult an attorney.

I agree with JQna to an extent. IF you do have a substantial amount of $$ then she may be getting all her ducks in a row FIRST. And IF $$ is not an issue, then it could be that she really is afraid to make such a drastic decision of divorce so quickly! Think about it, she has spent 15 years of her life with you! Its nearly impossible to just erase and forget the past 15 years of your life with your partner! I think she really is teling you the truth, that she wants you BOTH to make sure that divorce is what you really want before making a decision like that!  I have also done the same thing with my now ex husband. She does love you, theres no doubt about that or she wouldnt have devoted 15 years to you. You said that she's a young high school teacher? Are you much older then she? Im trying to get a better understanding of things. If you are much older, then I also think that she may be talking to younger men and wants MORE out of life instead of the boring every day grind. Do you take her out? Dinners? Trips? vacations? maybe dancing? having a drink at a bar?  Maybe that's what she's yearing for?  Either way, Im very sorry that you have to go through this, its never an easy thing to go through. Perhaps counseling will be beneficial to both of you. That way there will be a mediator that will tell you both some things and will NOT pick sides. Only whats right or wrong. I hope this helps you a little

Ask your self this question was it divorce first or legal seperation?????what do you think she wants????? as a legal seperation from the courts will give her the same as being divorced as she can run around with whom ever she wants while you sit at home is that what you want????As she may have found different interests than you. Ask your self what have you done wrong if you cant think of anything dont blame your self if she wants out of the relationship let her go as it's possable you can never get back what the two of you once had. My advice is let her go and move on with your life as yes you have 15 years invested in the relationship as it is hard to loose. But if she gave you the choice of a seperation or a divorce let her go as she has outher things in mind but get your self the best Attorney you can and move on as this is a no win sutition for you. As most possable you will end up in divorce court eather way you go so look at it this way it is better to part company as friends rather than enemys its best for all involved.

Hi,
I would not be so sure as per what she is planning (if she is).  Yes, she might be doing what Jqna wrote but on the other hand she might be confused, or trying to change things with you, trying to send you a message "hey man, I am seriouse !", or she needs space, or she has already someone [sorry !]..... and that is sure not the whole list of possibilities.   My best advise: Be on top alert, be very careful but at the same time listen to her carefully, try to "read" her on an emotional level and respond properly. 
Best regards,

Hi,

  You got excellent answers from everyone above.  One thumb to each. A woman does not just change her mind after 15 years of marriage.  Let me tell you the possible causes of her change of heart: This is coming from a woman who had been in this situation.

1.  She felt neglected by you all these time either physically, sexually or financially.

2.  She is discontented in your sexual relations.

3.  You don't show her much attention anymore maybe because both of you are very busy and preoccupied with your respective jobs, and responsibilities at home.

4.  She has met someone else who makes her feel loved, important and valued by giving her a lot of praise, attention, and gifts that she value.

5.  She does not feel attracted to you anymore.  Maybe you have gained too much weight and this in turn affects your lovemaking.

6.  You probably hurt her feelings without knowing that you have done so.  Or perhaps you abused her physically or emotionally.

7.  Perhaps she thinks you have another woman or you have been busy watching pornography.

8.  She may think that she'll have a better life with someone else.

    These are just possible reasons why she changed her mind about your marriage.  I'm not accusing you of these things, don't misunderstand me.

   What needs to be done is to have a heart to heart talk with her and ask her what the reasons are and if both of you can work this out.  You may need to see a marriage counselor.  If after these suggestions she still insists on separation and possibly divorce, by all means let her go and let her find her own happiness.  Everyone is entitled to have a happy life.  Hopefully she is not making a big mistake.

   If she insists on divorce eventually, try to work it out between the 2 of you.  Be fair in the division of your assets if you have a lot of assets.  Going to a lawyer is very expensive.  Divorce lawyers are very greedy people.  They are like voltures ready to swallow you alive and take your money.  Sorry to say this about divorce lawyers but that's the truth.  Ask divorced people.  I'm sure you'll hear a lot of bad stories about them.  They are a Necessary Evil.....

Good luck and I hope that you'll straighten out this problem once and for all.  Be strong.