How to deal with a spouse

To preserve the marriage he would have to be referred to a good coach or therapist. His attitude is not incurable but because he lacks self-confidence he deflects everything over to you which is unfair. I don't think he realizes how much hurt he is causing you so you have to be extremely firm about his seeing someone and even your threat of leaving him will leave him with no choice. Please for the sake of you both, be firm and don't take no for an answer.

You have to ask yourself ..How much can I take?? Have you tried talking to him?? He needs to know how he's making you feel in the most nonconfrontational way possible...If your too aggressive he will just shut down and become defensive...Hopefully he'll let his guard down and express to you his feelings.. If he doesn't want to talk then you have to do what's best for you.. Can you live like this for another 5 yrs.?? Good Luck

He is trying to shove all his short comings onto you blaming you for flaws in himself that he cant accept.. Dont throw in the towel just yet allthough i know its very stressfull being in your mariage right now..if both of you want this union to work and you can get him asfar as to admit that your mariage is facing some major trouble it would be a good idea to see a mariage counsiler or therapist TOGETHER. This has to be a team effort frm both you and your husband. No relationship leave alone a mariage can be build or saved by just one party. Ask yourself what went wrong and where or when did it go wrong..try and see if you indeed have a part in the crumbling of the mariage that you are facing.. Try and correct your part in it if any, still go see a good therapist.. Good luck

A person who is unhappy sometimes tries to regain control of their world by putting down others.  A spouse who constantly blames you for "everything going wrong" is trying to control you and your emotions.  By blaming you for all the problems and by upsetting you, your spouse feels like he/she has power.  Only insecure, unhappy bullies try to make others feel badly about themselves.  Misery does love company.  Tell your spouse to go get help.  Therapy.  He/she needs to resolve their issues and to build up some healthy self-esteem.  Therapy would be good for both of you.  If your spouse refuses to get help, pack your bags and go back to your mom's.  Go get help on your own.  By leaving, you will show your spouse that he/she can't control you any more.

I agree with the last answer. Why is it that misery loves company ?Anyway it is so much easier to blame someone else then to face the truth and admitt you were (he) was wrong. Sounds like he wants to be right all the time. (USUALLY) It is easier for  women to say the I am sorries but for men it takes alot of pride. In most cases a mans ego can be hard wall to break through. Hopefully once you get through the hard exterior he will be easier to deal with when a problem surrounds the 2 of you. marriage is hard work. You have to make the decision is it worth the fight to survive.  I hope that if you do decide to stay in the battle that both of you are on the same side fighting for each other and not against one another. Will your love conquer all ? or just your relationship ? Also moving in with eachother is a major step into commitment. We all know women mature faster. This is the first step into a full time serious commitment. He now has to learn to involve you in almost every part of his life. It can be very frustarting. I imagine that you might understand a little bit of that. You must of had to make some sacrifices to move in with him. It is easier for women (most of the time) to take that next step in life and want to settle down, get married, have children, and grow old with someone. The other sex is a mystery that's for sure but then again so can women.  we are much more complexe. I also wonder,  Maybe he likes arguments. Not all guys but alot of them like to fight, wrestle, and be boy's. What if it's just in his nature ? Or like I said it might just be harder for him to adjust to the new life that awaits the two of you. What ever the cause only he knows the answer and only you can make a decision.  I am curious how old are the two of you ? and how long have you been living with eachother ? Everything that is worth something is going to have a price whether it might be worth it is up to the both of you to decide. I wish u the best of luck.