How to stop snooping and not trusting!

e-mails and phones are private!you have no right looking at them!if she finds out,she will get really mad,and you'll lose her!so,first,it doesn't matter how beautiful she is,if she loves you,she will not cheat!she has her life and her friends,not everybody who gets in touch with her,is her lover!most of us,have plenty of friends and a lot of flirting does go on,that is all fun,not to be taken seriously!she's with you,isn't she?that just proves that she likes you,don't ruin it,by being jealous!just be happy that she's your girlfriend and let her have her fun,how would you feel,if your life was under a magnifying glass from somebody else,all the time?

Trust is what affects us to this behavior. Thats the key! You have to understand what leads you to behave like this? Did you behave like this with the rest of the girl friends you had? If you are that kind of person I guess confronting her like Oron advised is best, but if you figure out that with different girls you weren't that way, then you must point out what she is doing that is bothering you it's probably something in her behavior except the phone calls and mails.  You have got to reach an understanding that thats the way she is and you have to except her and your relationship. How would you feel if someone invaded to your privacy? Try to get it out of your mind , think of all the good qualities you have and what a great relationship you two have. Get the possibility of her with someone else out of your mind good thoughts bring good things. Build up your confidence , tell her to help you out by telling you more often she loves you. Believe in yourself and that you are with her for the right reasons, I am assuming it's love!

If you are not yet engaged or at least reached an agreement that you are the only one she is dating, you have no right to pry into her private affairs and e-mail. She would have every right to sever the relationship should she find out about your compromising her privacy. If you want more of a commitment from her then you must ask for it and stop your prying immediately.

First off, snooping through one's personal e-mail's, cell phone etc., only shows insecurity! The first thing to do is go to the source. That being, not to be afraid to confront the situation. If your honest with her, the odds of her dumping you are far less. A relationship is built on trust and if you cannot trust that person, who can you trust? Don't be afraid of her physical attraction or someone elses' attraction to her, just be happy with the fact that she comes back to you.