I am a new wife, and our lawyer suggests family counseling for better communication between my husband and his ex wife. I am family now, shouldn't i have every right to attend the counseling with my husband? She uses their son against him.
I think your lawyer is wrong; I fail to see what is to be accomplished. It is the ex-wife alone who needs counseling. You are absolutely right about your having the major family role.
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Hi,
I think your lawyer is right and you are part of the family, but do you think you could attend the sessions with an open mind, or would your attitude just defeat the purpose. I am a child of divorced parents who remarried, my boys are children of divorced parents who remarried and now one of my boys has a child with an ex-girlfriend. Each of these relationships are different, but the stress on the children and the new relationship is directly affected by the level of positive interaction between the couples, both ex-spouse and new spouse. How can improving communication be bad? What are you afraid of? Is it possible that the councilor could point out to your husbands ex of the error of her ways? Do you think that would happen with you present?
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Thank you for your response, I totally agree. Should I allow for the first session to be with my husband and her for the counselor to assess if I am needed in the sessions. or should i demand from the start that i be involved? the court order papers say" it is court ordered for the parties to attend counseling. If the counselor feels that the spouse should be there, it would be their decision?" i told my husband I should be there from the start to defend myself.
I think you should allow your husband to go and trust the counselor to defend you and make the decision as to whether or not you should attend. I have seen many different counselors over the years and have found all of them to be professional and very straightforward.