I have been dating a girl she live in california ...

move on. Nothing so complicated could ever be right.

Unfortunately, you will never be able to have a healthy relationship with this woman. She is married and whether she's ready to leave her husband or not, she will no doubt have issues that she needs to work out before she starts dating again.

I would suggest cutting all contact off with her and moving on.

First, you can't see the forest for the trees. At night she really does sleep with her husband... when she logs off the computer, you get it now?? If she tells you any different tell her you were born at night but, it wasn't last night, then move on with your life. Your real true love will come, you'll see.

Hi,

     What are you doing with a married woman if she does not have any interest in leaving her husband?  You are wasting your time.  Better get her out of your life.  There is so much drama here.  Don't you think finding someone where you are is a lot less headache than dealing with a married woman in California?

     Move on with your life and just make it simple and you'll be a lot happier.  You are making your emotions decide for you.

I'm sorry, but you may not like my answer.  With all due respect, I sincerely believe you need to end this long distance relationship.  This woman has lots of psychological problems, you can not be sure she even is sure about anything.  PLUS, friend, she IS MARRIED.  Find a woman is is mentally healthy and NOT married.  Start fresh without these problems.  I wish you well, you sound like a nice person.  I don't think you'll have a hard time finding someone.  OH, and make sure she lives CLOSE BY.