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Is his cybercheating normal and okay?

He's started talking to girls online and flirting with them, and there was very sexual flirting involved too. When I ask him, he says he wanted to see if he was still in demand. Do I have a right to be angry? And should I be worried that it'll go farther than just AIM conversations?


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I think that it's simple, you need to maybe move a step up from IM's and speak on the phone... and talk to him about what he's looking for and what he wants.  At the same time, you need to decide what you want, and honestly tell him.  If you are both looking to start a real relationship from this thing that you've had online, then in that case, no "cheating" is not OK.  However, if all you are looking for is someone to talk to online and flirt with, why shouldn't he be able to flirt with other people?  You both need to decide whether you are interesting in the words: commitment, exclusivity, relationship, love... etc.  If you are both with these things on your mind, than I suggest you start talking in other ways other than through IM's.  Good luck.
Posted 2008-03-07T15:43:12Z
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Haha thanks for the answer, but the problem isn't with us talking only online. We've been in a real relationship for over two years now, and we do talk face to face.  It's just become a problem that (I don't know) he's insecure or something, so he goes online and flirts with girls to "see if he's still in demand" and that girls other than me still do want him.  I asked him the first time to stop and he did it a second time. If I find out about it again, I'm not sure what to do.
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Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.
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Gocha... sorry, I didn't know that part.  I think that you should try to talk to him again, and to go out of your way in general to boost his self esteem.  Let him know how lucky you consider yourself to be with him.  Hang out with him and your friends, and whenever someone says something nice about him, tell him.  Compliment him.  I know it sounds silly, but maybe he's used to girls flirting back and being attracted to him online, and now that he is with you, he wonders whether he is still a part of the game, if you will.  Try to build your relationship with him, and assure him that there are many women who would love to be with him, but you are with him... he shouldn't feel the need to flirt with other women.  I hope this helps.  Good luck.
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Yes you do have every human right to be really piss'ed , if you have any suspicions about it when hes not with you leave him it seems hes noot to concerned about you or the relationship you both are in.
Posted 2008-03-07T21:44:28Z
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Yes, I believe you have a right to be upset.......In my book cyber is a form of cheating.......I think you should have a real open sit down with him on this subject......

I do know men that love to cyber and never stray from their mate....However, I am not suggesting this is right......

Just the fact that this is upsetting to you should be enough for him to stop doing it......

Talk to him......Try to not let it be an argument.....Let him know that it is something that bothers you.......

Good luck......I hope it works out well for you......
Posted 2008-03-08T03:57:21Z
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