I have done all of that before. I left in my car with my 3 girls, and drove to where my father lived in NV. I left everything behind, and before I had left, had a restraining order put on my husband. My car barely made it to NV, my father was so screwed up on drugs that it wasn't healthy to even have my children around him, so I decided to try to make it to Wash State, and called my brother, who is also messed up on drugs, and asked for help. He told me that if he didn't want to become involved, but would take my oldest child in if it would help out because she was old enough to take care of herself. I couldn't stay there with my father because he was being violent, so I tried calling other family members for help. I don't have many family members. I don't have a bunch of brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, and what have you. Yes, I do have options. I have the option of leaving again with nowhere to go, no money for first last and damage deposit on a place, and he will harass me even more because it doesn't matter where I go, he finds me. He uses my ss# to find me, and his parents have tons of money. We also have two children together that I have to be linked to him through for another 13 years. I have tried to leave several times. Everytime I get a plan together, he and his family always already know and put a stop to what I am doing. This is not a point of me not being strong enough to leg go. This is a point of a spoiled rotten arrogant man who feels like everybody owes him something. He's an alcoholic, and does cocaine and meth. When the cops have to come out to your house to make sure your okay because the man is breaking all the windows out, and trying to kill your neighbor with a butcher knife because they tried to help you, and the police walk into your house and when they see all the blood inside they start looking for a body, you know it's bad. When you have rocks throws through your car window with messages attatched to them while at thr grocery store, and they are from him, you wonder how he found out where you were when you told nobody where you were going. Try getting a video sent to your e-mail of you in your own shower, and it's an e-mail address that is new and was created after he left. Yeah, I know I can get legal asistance for a lawyer, and I have tried, but my mail is picked through before I get home. You have no idea how much I have done to get away from him. I had even went and got a post office box so that I could have that and change my address with the poeple and places that I wanted to receive mail from, then put in a change of address for the P.O. box, and he would have no way of finding me through an address correction request or a forwarding address correction, but his sister has the same name because she was never married. We share the same first name, so she used to go down to the post office and pick up my mail. She showed her ID and said that she lost her key and purchased a new one. It took me 2 months to find out what had happened. His uncle is a Lexinton County Sherriff, so every time the police are called, the call his uncle to deal with it because we live in Lexington County. One time when I left, somehow there was a warrant out for my arrest, and my drivers license was suspended. I'm telling you, I would be better off trying to think of a way to get him to move on! His family finally knows he's a monster, but they won't help me because they want me to take him back. This isn't some silly little obsession thing. This is more like something you would find in a horror movie. I don't have the option of never having to comunicate with him again because we have children together, and he has rights to see them. I tried to take those rights away, and I ended up losing because everything he does gets washed away by his uncle. I've filed police reports before, and have been told that I could get in trouble for filing a false report. The incident with the butcher knife was dropped. My neighbor tried to press charges, but they wouldn't stick because somehow, even though it was not his uncle who came out for the incident, the evidence mysteriously disappeared. The knife that he tried to stab the neighbor with stricken from the record because it was not there to be placed into evidence. He pled not-guilty, and all charges were dropped because he had no other prior record of this type of behavior, and he said that it was the neighbor going after him, not the other way around. The neighbor was just trying to help me becasue my olderst daughter went over there and asked to call the police, and the neighbor had came over to help me. People just don't want to help becasue they don't like what happens to them. It kind of runs on the same philosophy of let's say a person is covered by killer bees in which are attracted to their scent and will not leave, and as long as that person doesn't upset the bees, they are fine and will not be harmed, but if someone else comes into the picture trying to get the bees off they have to worry about being stung to death, and it may cause the bees to sting the person to death that they are trying to help in the first place, therfor the person tells them to just be still until they decide to go away. My husband is my killer bees! I just need a way to convince him to let me go. He's a sadist, and he enjoys doing sadistic things to me. Let me ask you this, have you ever went to sleep at night and woke up to someone with their hands around your neck telling you that they will be the ones to choose whether or not your entitled to breathe? This is not a normal situation. The wrong choice could mean my life, so to me, a better choice is too not be so hasty on trying to take off again. The only way I can really get out of this is to get him to lose interest. The authorities have already been notified, I have involvement from many different organizations to keep us protected, but the truth of the matter is, just like they said, they need proof of what he is doing in order to press charges, and it's always handled within his family. They don't want to have me run and take the chance on me potentially losing my life before they can help, and even they say to try to get him to lose interest. That is waht I really need, a way to get him to lose interest!
