DO YOU AGREE WITH WHAT I WROTE BELOW
Yesterday I went to Beth's memorial. There were relatives there and four people who worked with Beth. Three out of four co-workers were normal. They realized that life for them would go on. One thinks that Beth was her best friend because they met 19 years ago and went on one trip together and wrote poetry and she started to cry when she left to go home.
Beth I have know since she was born - I am six years older. I am 54, Beth was 48. Knowing someone for 19 years is not long compared to the length of time Beth and I knew one another.
What this girl does not realize is her life will go on. However, mine, my cousin Harvey (Beth's Dad), and the other relatives who were very close to Beth our lives are shattered in many ways.
Beth and I told one another everything. There isnt anything Beth did not know about me and I did not know about her. We even had our own language and could look at one another and know what the other was thinking.
Every formal affair they sat Beth and I at the same table. If a family gathered at someone's home she and I were together.
So yes that girl should be sad but she cannot feel the way we felt. My family will never see Beth ever again and friends can drift apart.
I am not saying that friends do not matter what I am saying is that close friends can drift apart and close friends can never feel the same way as close relatives do. The reason I am saying this is: If a close friend of yours (God forbid) passed away you would be upset but your life will go on in a normal way eventually - your void will close.
However, when a relative you have known all your life passes away and you were always together it is more of a void. And you cannot tell me that she is more upset then Harvey (Beth's Dad), or Stacy (her mom) or me or the few other close relatives who had Beth in their life ever since Beth was born. And no 19 years is not a long time compared to 48 years - Beth was 48 years old.
Friends drift apart. Close relatives never do.
