How to cope with an adult son moving 3000 miles away.

My sister moved a long ways away when she got married, but she always calls on weekends, and that helps a bit. We only c eachother on holidays cause that's the only time she can ask off work. It is hard, but u have 2 remember, it's hard 4 them 2. They won't replace u; u'll always b closer than a freind 2 them. Remind them that, if anything goes wrong(God 4bid), there will always b an open door and family 2 welcome them back. It is hard at 1st, but they r still family no matter how far the distance. Hope this helps. =)

I left my family and moved 1500 miles away. Yeah it's hard on me and them too. The best way is try not to think about him. Keep yourself busy and especially busy your mind. The less you think about him the easier it will get. He is not divorcing you & the family just working at a different location. You are just a phone call away. Or, a chat room away with a web cam. How much easier it is today than it was yesterday when only the pony express kept people in touch.

your very welcome! =)

One day at a time is the best attitude. Knowing that right now in this minute I'm okay, right now I can accept the change. Go ahead and cry it can't hurt and just take it one moment, one day, one week at a time. It'll work itself out with time.

i am not coping, my only offspring lives in vegas, don't laugh he is 40 years old.  everyday i am sad because he does not want to call much and then when he does i same something wrong and he says goodbye.  i was a lousy mother and this is what i reaped.  if i could life my life over i would change almost everything and one thing is i would of been a much more grace filled mom.  this is my only son and this time it is different and i am still crying every day.  any ideas for me would be appreciaed. 

Dearest Mother, My heart can feel the pain in yours.  How sad for you to feel this way.  That you were not a good mother. 

But....All is not lost...    You have a son!  Many Many do not. Your son is alive and you can speak with him.  Many cannot. 

If you feel that you have a more tender heart toward your son these days than you did in the past, let him know it.  Show him, by your actions how you have changed!  Apologize to him for the wrongs you feel you did to him and ask for his forgiveness and beg him to let you show him how much you love him and how many tender feelings you now have for him. 

 Do anything ....ANYTHING...to find that closeness you desire with your only child. Forgive yourself and go forward in a new Spirit and with the Grace of God in your heart you will find peace and love. 

Your son is still young in many ways and you are also.  Don't wallow in grief for a past that is over and gone.  Take some action, kind and sweet action, to make the future years brighter for you both.  Love to you, NJoy

njoy

thank you for your answer.  i will read it every day so that i can let go of the painful past and have hope.  i want to live in the same state as my son so i can see him every week.