A confused woman

Hi,

I would so much want to hear his side of the story because this is such an unusual story. His concern and care for you and the children during his infidelity are signs of a man who is willing to accept responsibility and that is to his credit. I think you can accept his offer of reform but you should insist that he undergo some type of therapy to enable him to assume the role of a faithful mate. 

Very strange. I wouldn't trust such a man and this situation is so peculiar that I don't know how you can reach a solution. If you decide to trust him you have to be prepared for the chance of disappointment. He doesn't sound too stable and you'll never know where it might hit you.

Think carefully if this is the type of life you want. On the other hand it may turn out to be OK but this possibility seems less likely to me.

I find it hard to believe , how you agreed staying with him all this time. If he provided your needs material wise and you overlooked his actions it looks like his love towards you doesn't really matter. I think if you are worried about the future you should talk it openly with him like advised before , I would suggest adding a perpetual agreement maybe this would make you feel more confident. It sounds horrible but maybe this will get him to stay after you will re-marry.

I think there is something unhealthy with this situation. It's your decision to make but reading the things you wrote, I don't see why you should expect things to be different from now on. Don't settle for mediocrity.