When discussing something (in live) with other people I tend to:
- ask a lot of clarification questions in order to better understand what they have in mind;
- try out a lot of different arguments (for the sheer purpose to look at the many various facets of the issue);
- prompt them that what I mean is not "this and this" as they think but something else (I happen to be propmting the same clarification several times, not for the purpose on insisting that my point is wrong but for insisting on them to not get me wrong);
-never leave a point of an issue vague and unclarified by bringing it to discussion over and over again, despite them attempts of the other side to move on to the next one.
All this seems to be boring and exhausting for other people. They often tell me that they do not want to "argue" with me any more and they feel irritated.
But what I am trying to do is not to argue but simply have as specific and clear debate on an issue as possible. Instead people think I am stubborn at convincing them that I am right. Which is not the case - all that I am seeking is exploring in depth all arguments.
How can I have fruitful communication with people without leaving the wrong impression that I am trying to argue with them?
