How to know if having children is right for you

Are you married? I mention that because to me it was very important to have my husbands help during the early years of raising children. I don't think I could have done it alone. In the middle of the night after I fed the baby, he would get up burp the baby and put him back to sleep. It was so nice being able to take turns and having someone to help. If you get frustrated or tired you know that someone will be there to help you.   It is stressful even for married couples so don't try this if you feel you are not ready.

Nobody ever knows. Even people who are parents always have that feeling of 'what if' I had stayed childless.

Heck, I'm 53 and I have three adult children and a toddler (age 2 in November) grandson and even now I sometimes wonder, "Why did I do this, again?"

I'd say unless you absolutely hate being around kids, they always irritate you and you never see any benefit to their existence; then you will probably make a wonderful parent.

And as everyone knows, it's so much easier to parent your own child instead of listening to the whining from someone else's kid!

Good luck,

jkgrandma 

I can honestly say the only person that can answer this is you . I was a young mother . and I have loved every minuet of it . I never had this fredom to choose , if you feel that you dont want to experiance childbirth then look in to other options like adoption . Children are the beging of a real life with love that canot ever be taken away no matter the obsicles in life , or the bad desisions that you make that child will except every bit that you give and will give in return in their own way . they have books and classes , but no matter its you who decide what you want for your child and you have to adapt your own parenting style . I have three and I have three diffrent ways i have to approch things .

People like to share bad news:  the times up at night, the difficult times, pregnancy horror stories, etc.   Get a new set of friends, or ask them about the joys.

Then picture yourself in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, etc.  Do you see yourself doing homework, watching soccer games, helping your daughter pick out a wedding dress?

You may want to volunteer at an organization that works with children--or be a volunteer at a school.  Remember, it is easier for your friends to get your sympathy and attention by telling you bad stories--the worse, the better.  But there are snuggly times after a bath, and the joys of seeing your child learn.  Best of luck.

you know i could tell you no,but you would have to go throu for yourself to know if you are fit for it and you are never to young for anything in this world.