Thanks for your comment. I have left both of them alone. I just want to be free of these feelings i have felt for so long. I have tried praying, and I even found me a great boyfriend who i trust will be monogamous. It is just that I feel so angry, and more than that, i feel hurt that they would mess with my feelings like that.
Believe me, I did not quietly leave them alone at first. It took me about two months to stop calling him and asking him: WHY? He was cold and evil about the whole thing (laughing all the while), and since we all worked together, she told my boss that I was scaring her because I wanted to talk to her and ask her why she would do such a thing. My boss got me transferred to another place, and i was told if i ever talked to her, i was going to have charges pressed against me. i never got to talk to her, and i never wanted to talk to him. He and i were together for 4 years, and I knew her for about 3 years. i guess they had been doing this the whole time.
you know, now that i am actually expressing myself about this, it seems so stupid and childish. however, at the time, it was so painful!! i am proud of myself. it has also helped me recognize who i am and what i want out of a relationship. (friend or lover)
thanks again