Was I cheated on???

Sorry, this is a long one, but I really need to know!!!

I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now and last summer she went to a sports tournament with her dad in Florida. She came back with stories of great time, and especially at the banquet. She spoke about everyone getting drunk and having a blast. She mentioned that one guy bought her a lot of drinks because she was able to get him an extra dinner by asking the weittress for it, so he was thankful and bought her drinks.

This summer I attended the banquest as well since I started playing the sport with her dad.  Everyone at the banquet was pretty much the same as the people at the previous year's banquet.  Ofcourse there was drinking again, and I was talking to some guy who was asking questions about me and my girlfriend.  She wasn't there, so we were talking about her and I was saying how great she was. He asked how long we've been dating, and I said over a year, and the guy questioned if we were together during the last years banquet.  I said yes, and he explained that he is suprised, because she did not act like she was in a relationship at all.  He said that he would not be suprised if she cheated on me that night.

I confronted my girlfriend about this, and her reaction wasn't what I really expected.  She didn't seem to be very upset at all, but very calm and proceded to tell me that she loves me and would never cheat on me, especially because she's been cheated on before and she respects me too much.  She also explained that she wouldn't want any of those guys anyway because they're all players.  After she noticed that I was still upset, she explained that this guy may have mistaken her with her sister, who did cheat on her boyfriend that night by making out with someone else.  Her explanation for tis is that she promised her sister she wouldn't tell anyone, but now that this situation has come up, she has decided to tell me. She also explained that she is just really friendly with people, so that this guy may have misinterpret that. 

My girlfriend does get extremely friendly with other guys when alcohol is involved, even when I am in the room. I am afraid that she may be even MORE friendly when I am not there, and that worries me.  I don't want to get cheated on, but I don't know how to approach this in order to find out more information and protect myself. What do you think I should do???

Kevin


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Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.

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Does she behave in other ways which make you suspicious?

Did she cheat on her prior boyfriend with you while she was still with him?

If the answer to both of those questions is 'no,' then why are you worrying over this?

Furthermore, whose words are you more likely to trust; some guy you talked to for a few hours (and who may have the hots for your girlfriend) or a woman you've been with for over a year?

At some point, it all boils down to trust.

Either your girlfriend has given you no reason to doubt, so you trust her OR; you don't trust her farther than you could throw her. And if that's the case, why would you still be with her?

Absent any proof to the contrary, I'd stop obsessing on the what-if's and just enjoy what you have. 
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amazing answer! thank you so much
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I agree with you.
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Maybe she cheated that night, maybe she didn't. Only she knows that & she's not going to tell you if she cheated on you. I'm not buying the story about her sister who cheated that night & the guy may have mistaken her for the sister. That's a load of BS. Honestly, I think she did cheat.. being that you'll never know for sure, might as well just give her the benefit of the doubt & not worry over something that may or may not have happened a year ago. You should trust your g/f & if you can't trust her, you shouldn't be with her.
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