I broke up with him...

Hi , I'm a woman and this is what I see when I read your question . This is a guy who was not honest with you , doesn't communicate with you and feels you are not compatible . He became distant , no longer made time for you , Red Flag .  He's felt problems in the relationship for a year but never communicated his feelings to you , Red Flag .  When you tried to discuss these changes that concerned you , he choose not to be honest with you , Red Flag .  You didn't end the relationship , he did .   Sounds as if he emotionally left the relationship long ago just was not man enough to tell you .  You said yourself you knew he wanted to break up .

 This may be hard for you to accept right now , but you need to move on .

You want and deserve  someone who wants to be with you , communicates openly and honestly with you and is compatible with you .   Communication , fidelity , respect and honesty is what builds a  strong lasting loving relationship .  I wish you the best .

Hello Kell. Sorry to hear your heartbroken. I am female, I know you asked for a guy's opinion but I think for now you should surround yourself with your girlfriends get busy, get out, stay occupied. My true suggestion to you is to start dating again. DON"T jump in to anything serious just casual dates. I'm not sure how old you are but you say he just started school. I'm assuming college. He is going through alot of changes right now. You don''t mention anywhere that you are in school or that your schedule changed any only his. If all this is the case the two of you are on the path of adulthood. You both need space to figure yourselves out. He may change tto someone you dont even recognize in the next few years , that also goes for you. Don't waste this time waiting to see what he turns into. Enjoy your life. I'm 30 (gracious in a month) I went through a similar situation about the time I started school 10 years ago, with my high school sweetheart. We were together 6 years and got to that point in life. It was tough but I look at my life now and where he is at now. I'm glad I didn't end up marrying him. I am so much different than I was then.  I'm not saying that the two of you will never mend broken bridges but In the mean time enjoy your life , You just may find a better one out there.   Go join a gym or a dating site or SCHOOL, find a new job whatever make your schedule include things that are different to what your acustome to doing. It will do wonders for your self esteem to acomplish doing these knew things on your own and it will also open doors for you to meet new people and new relationships.

Good Luck

I hate to say this but i am gowing to, you will be better off with out him even though you say you care for him. But in this case stay friends if possable but have anoutger relationship with thisperson no as he will never change no matter how much you hope it will. As for ever taking him back it is a big mistake on your part i would run the outher way and not look back and yes i agree with the Ladies.

I will suggest not calling or emailing him. Give him time. If you often beg and plead, your ex boyfriend will expect it.  Sooner or later he will wonder why you are not calling him back.  Eventually, he will contact you; if he won’t then I will request to forget about him; you can be sure that he will never be back.  

What you also need is to give yourself time to heal.  Learn from all the mistakes either of you made in the past relationship.  Don't hate yourself or dwell too much in the past. Instead, try to "re-discover" yourself. Make new friends, get a new hobby and love yourself more. This will give you the confidence you need. All these informations I learned from  http://www.breakingup-coping-healing-and-makingup.com/get-your-ex-back.html .

Here's a site you can check out for yourself that addresses your very situation.  Learn How To Get Your "Ex Back", Even If Your Situation Seems Hopeless!   I wished you of the best whatever the outcome.

Kellbell_xo,

You said he stated, "we're too different."  That's your answer.  It doesn't matter "who" broke up with "who".

As far as he was concerned, the relationship wasn't going in the direction that he wanted.  I'm sorry dear......Be thankful that you have an answer and leave it at that.  Read some good self-help books on relationships, appreciate the good times, forgive and forget the bad, lick your wounds and get on with your new life.  I'm not saying that it will be easy, but you will grow from the experience.  Happiness will come along again when you least expect it! 

Blessings,

~ nmpb ~