when my husband and i decided that his was what we both wanted (it takes huge commitment for both partners) i was 45 and he was 47. we both took two weeks off from work, and started with him suckiling me around the clock every 2 hours for 15 minutes on each breast. within a week i noticed a change in my breast, and my nipples began to fill out and become pretty lush, but no milk. we were anxious as i've never been pregnant, so i consulted with an obgyn. she recommended a shot ( and i apologize i don't remember what it was), some herbs and the usual bowl of oatmeal twice a day. after our two week vacation ended, before we got up in the morning, he would suckle me for at least and hour, we would meet home at lunch time for a quick 30 minute suckle, upon arriving at home another hour, and then he would suckle himself to sleep. as i said, this is a huge commitment for both parties. finally after 6 weeks, the first glorious drop of liquid came. the excitement was unbelievable! after two more weeks, my breast were full, and my husband had his first full meal...enough milk that he didn't want breakfast, and felt satisfied until lunch.
it has been 10 years now. we suckle every morning still for an hour. we meet at home at least twice a week for "lunch" and then after dinner while we watch tv or read he suckles. this is usally for about 2 hours.
i will say, my husband and i have a very intimate, close, and loving relationship. there is nothing we can't share or talk about. we both have made the commitment that if either person is feeling a bit ornery, we lie down in our "nursery" ( a room set up with a special bed, pillow, with soothing music available) and we nurse for at least 1/2 hour. you'd be surprised how easy it is to drop any defense and come to a happy compromise after this type of bonding. my husband worships me as i now live my life to please him. it is so very satisfying for both of us. you are about to embark on the most wonderful adventure ever. just keep the "gold ring" in mind, and be patient with your body.