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If I have boyfriend, can I still look?

At what point in a relationship should one stop looking at other people?  I've had the same boyfriend for several months now and I sometimes don't know whether I should be looking at other guys, just to know what's out there, to be sure that what I have is what I want... or whether I should completely ignore other guys because I have a guy?  I mean, do guys keep checking out other girls when they have a girlfriend?  Is it OK to do this as long as you're not acting on any feelings you might develp? 


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It is ok to look, just don't act on it! If your mind is wandering and you are looking at other guys, then perhaps there is something missing from your current relaitonship. It is normal to check out other guys that you are physically attracted to; especially during the beginning stages of the relationship when you are not completely secure with how you feel about one another. The grass is always greener on the other side. It is easy to build up ideal relationships in your imagination with strange guys that you see on the street. However, right now you are in real relationship with a potentially great guy. Give him a chance. If after a little while you still feel like something is missing, then perhaps it is time to explore your options elsewhere. Good luck.

Posted 2007-12-23T17:31:16Z
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I think it's ok as long as you don't act on it. I'm married, and I look at attractive men, and I know my husband checks out attractive women.  I'm ok with that, I'm the one he married and the one he goes home to every night, the same with me. 

Posted 2007-12-24T04:57:36Z
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,


It's OK to look as long as you don't act.  However one sentence bothers me.... and makes me think. I quote: ".....to be sure that what I have is what I want...".   That's bad.  You have a boyfriend and you are not sure that what you have is what you want ?....  That means you miss something.... somethging is not well, not complete, not satisfying, not full, doesn't answer to your expectations / dreams, things can be better / improved.....  If it's so, define them and discuss them, in depth, with your boyfriend.  Fix the bad parts, don't try to find it in other guys.... No one is perfect....
Best regards,
Posted 2007-12-24T05:51:15Z
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