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I've never had a boyfriend - help!

I'm new to this site and a little weird about asking questions rather than just answering them but here I go...

 

I'm sixteen and I've never had a boyfriend. I've never kissed a guy or held hands, or anything. Only one guy has been open with his attraction to me but I wasn't attracted to him, so that didn't work out. There's no question about my sexuality, I'm definitely attracted to guys but it's like they're not attracted to me. I'm not overweight, I'm not hideously unattractive, I like to think of myself as fairly intelligent and normal. I am, I think, a lot more mature than a lot of people but I wouldn't think that would really matter, I've met plenty of mature guys in the 16-18 age range. Do you guys have any ideas on what's wrong with me or what I'm not doing right? I'd like to think that, oh, I'm still really young but I think that most girls are getting started when they're like 12. 

 

Help would be much appreciated! 


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I know someone that tried this and it worked.  She was about your age and she knew that the negative type of energy that she was radiating is sub-consciously being picked up by other guys and they would stay away.  Her cure.... she went through all of her family and relatives until she found a distant cousin her age and they spent the summer together and "playdated"... since it's family you'll tend to be more relaxed and close without the sexual over and undertones that creep in with boys your age that are not family and relatives.  Look for someone to play date with the same issues you have but in reverse (Boy can't get Girl)  ...  set the tone of the playdate and just go out have some fun being .... being around guys and keeping it pure.   Let me know if it works if you try it....  Hope this helps !!!!!  It's just a suggestion I know worked for someone else...

 

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I'm not a negative person, really and I'm not nervous around guys. In fact, I sometimes prefer their company over girls. I've had a few guy friends, I don't go into friend relationships with guys expecting more or anything. 


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi and welcome to Yedda,
You mentioned nothing about your personality: Is it good fun being with you ? are you a happy person ? Do you transmit optimism ?  are you a friendly person ? are you an interesting person ? (being smart doesn't mean that one is interesting too !).  Are you too seriouse ?  do you talk too little or too much ?   Please note that not only the appearance is what matters, the "inner beauty" has a big role in attracting guys ?   Or maybe you simply didn't meet the right guys or you don't go to the right places....  I truely appologise if I was too direct.
Best regards.


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No, no, I definitely should've said a little something about my personality. 

 

I have a lot of friends, I like to joke around and play and such but I know when to be serious. I take classes after school in fashion design since that's what I hope to pursue in college. I love music and I do bellydancing. I only go to school four hours a day so there's not a lot of opportunities like a lunch hour to really really socialize but I get together with people after school usually. I don't know how to really describe myself, I think I'm definitely friendly but maybe a little quiet. I'm definitely not antisocial but I don't really go extra out of my way to get noticed.


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Its never too late to ask.

What a privilege it is to hear from a young lady like you. Just by looking at your photo I can see you are very pretty and someone whose parents must be proud of. There is nothing wrong with you that time and nature won't take care of. When I was your age I thought and felt the same way plus I barely had breasts. I was sure I was a freak. My parents all said what I'm saying to you but, I didn't believe them and I was sure god passed me over for my girl friends. The moment you stop worrying about it some nice wholesome guy will be attracted to you. As for the 12 yr olds who have already passed you up, their reputations are already ruined, and chances are they might not even finish middle or hi school because they might also get pregnant. You did not say much about school but extra curriculam activites is a good way to meet nice boys. Trust me it will happen.


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