My boyfriend flirts with other girls but he says he loves me

If I we're you b/f or sister, this is what I'd tell you:

1.  We all look, but touching is a no, no!

2.  Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.  If they are "just friends" and he loves you, he won't have a problem with you being friends with her. 

3.  If you have SOLID PROOF they are having any type of sexual talk or (god forbid) contact, you toss him to the curb like the trash he is. 

4.  I hope that he never does this to you, but no matter what happens in your life, good or bad, you always need to find something positive in what did happen. 

Example:  My ex's b/f stirred the pot between my ex and I and my ex's ugly, abusive side came out.  His b/f was lying and I proved the idiot was lying, but the ex ALWAYS took his b/f's side.  MY positive:  If it we're not for the ex's b/f doing the things he did, I never would have seen my ex for his true colors. While his b/f thought it was funny to cause problems and know that I was being abused from the lies, what he really was doing was a favor for me. 

I hope things go well for you!  Good luck! 

Lauren, I am sorry to burst your bubble but your boyfriend does NOT love you.

When someone loves you, they respect your feelings and try very hard to treat you in the way you wish to be treated. This boy is not doing that. Instead, he spends his time doing what he wants; except for when he stops to tell you whatever it is he thinks you want to hear.

I suspect you are both young and you are still learning about yourselves as well as about how to have a relationship with someone else. I know you don't want to hear this answer, but I think it's time for you to break up with your boyfriend and move on.

Perhaps one day you'll get back together with him (if you haven't outgrown him by then) but for now it's best if you go your separate ways. Find someone who likes you for yourself and is willing to be with you all of the time, not just when the other girl isn't available.

Take care,

jkgrandma

P.S. Hugging, texting and phone sex are NOT 'just flirting.' If that is what he is trying to tell you and/or get you to believe, then you are fooling yourself and falling for LIES. Don't do it!

Sounds to me as though he's playing both of you and TRYING to provoke you into fighting each other over him. It may sound weird, but SOME guys find that to be exciting (or think they will).

It would probably serve him right if the BOTH of you were to dump him (and don't take him back afterwards!).

Hi Lauren, ------ You received several very good answers (thumb up, each). You should NOT accept his behavior and MUST bring that behavior to an end. Discuss it with him (heart-2-heart discussion) make it clear that you love him, don't want to loose him, his behavior hurts you deeply, therefore you can't accept it and if he won't change it you'll be forced to leave him (painfull as it be). His reaction will say if he loves, respects, cares for you !. That's his REAL TEST. As an outsider he seems to me a player (sorry !). ------- Best regards,

Put your foot down & let him know if this continues, you're leaving him. He is disrespecting you and has no shame in doing so. He knows he can get away with it and you're not going to do anything about it. Until you do, he'll keep talking to her.