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My boyfriend is expecting a child...

I'm new to this. I am 18. Well, i was dating this guy since my birthday of this year. We have dated before but it didnt work out since i was very young and focusing on school. We decided to break it off. This year on my birthday we got back together. He had been after me since we broke up but i wanted to wait until i was older and sure it was what i wanted. Obviously i agreed and we got together. Turns out that he is now expecting a child and knew this from December of last year ( we got together in march, and he was trying to get together from around december ). He told me himself that he is expecting but i broke up with him first. I did not know of his situation when i ended it. So i am guessing it made much easier for him to say. I love him still regardless of this. Turns out, or sources close to both me and the girl, says that they broke it off i'm guessing when she told him or whatever. He told her about me and him getting back together and it 'seems' she made no fuss. Things were normal so to speak. We went out and everything as a couple. But what puzzles me is why did the end it, why did he tell her about us & why was she reading the texts that was sent between me and him?..he now says he is sticking around so she does not stress or get sick and he says he doesn't love her. He also says that they can't get back together and that he wants me back? She already has a child and she is older than him and she seems to be obsessed with him. I say this because i know how she is. I think she is controlling him? and mayb did this of spite? Could this be y they broke up in the frist place and how she allow him to be with me [an ex] knowing she is carrying his child. With all i've said and the questions posed what does anyone have to tell me about the matter. I do not hate him, i love him still but i realize i may have to move on. He also wants to "hang out and be happy, be best of friends and talk." What is up?

 

After all this, i am glad i am still a virgin. But i did think of my first time being with him. He tried to sleep with me one time since we got bac together but now i am happy we didnt go through. Where do i stand in all of this?


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
I know you won't like my answer:  Move on, painfull as it be, he'll give you only one thing TROUBLES.  If you stay with him you'll always have to live under her shadow and his child.  Life is complicated enough and no need to add extra complications.....  Move on and find someone that will give you peacefull loving life.....  I appologize if I was too direct. 
Best regards,


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Thnx. It was direct but i was not looking for someone to beat around the bush with me. My mom and I are best friends and she said the same thing. He wants to be friends..should I? I rlly wldnt want him as an enemy. We aren't together but i am thinking it would be best if I do move on [ painfull as it is ]. The first days were terrible! When i found out, i didnt eat for 5dys! Now i think i am getting over it. I just hope she means him well.

 

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Tnx.  Yes, you took the right decision.  I know it will be hard and painfull, but for the long run that's the best for you.  It will take time, but I promise you that you'll overcome it.  No, don't stay friends, being close to him will make it harder for you.... and it will lead you to more than friends.....  Move on, find yourself someone that will deserve you and most important give you love, care and support.....  you really need it now !.   Send my warm regards to your mom, she must be a smart lady, trust her and follow her advises.... 
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