What should i do?????

Hi,

     Your boyfriend is not sure if he loves you or not, that's why he said that he wants to be 1000 % sure before he tells you he loves you.  He is being honest.  You should appreciate his honesty.  Seeing him once a week is not enough time to get to know a person.  Give him time, if you care about him, keep seeing him the way you are doing, show him you love him.  If in the next 3 months  he could not decide if he loves you or not inspite of your being nice and loving to him, then perhaps it is time to find a good man who will reciprocate and appreciate you.  Take care.

Well as a guy i understand why he would say that because i think it is a lot harder for i guy to express his feelings to the woman that he is seeing. It also depends on the guy. he could be scared of getting hurt or maybe he is just not a guy that says i love you.  My advice is to be upfront with him and ask him if he loves you and if not tell him that you can't put your heart out there if he can't show some kind of emotion to you.  I have a question, my lady that i have been talking to called me today and heard my mom in the background and wouldn't believe me when i told her it was my mom. What do i do? and what would make her think that? To top it off my mom calls me hijo, which is son in spanish. i'm confused

If you are nine months into this relationship and he is YET to tell you that he loves you, he is either VERY gun shy or he is full of horse manure.  You are the only one with him every day, so you need to make an 'objective' decision of which one it is.

 If you have any doubts as to whether he still has feelings for an ex or not, chances are he still does.  That doesn't mean that he can't have feelings fo you, but it does make it harder for you to go forwards.  I know from personal experience on the latter.

I would sit down, weigh out the pros and cons on a sheet of paper in an objective manner, and decide whether or not the risk of more of my time and more of my heart is worth it on this man.  That is your decision, and you need to do it with a rational mind if at all possible.

I will be praying,

Saremks

I think your bf is not ready. Once a week dating over a nine month period is not necessarily the ideal way to develop a strong relationship. I think you should reduce the pressure on him (don't tell him again how much you love him). Give him at least another three months and if during that time he is not more responsive look for someone else who is also closer for a healthier dating atmosphere.

Hi,
You received some very good answers (creditted them all with thumbs up).  I would like to add several comments:
1.  Relations are not always symmetric. 
2.  9 months once a week makes only
     some 36 meetings..... not taht much. 
3.  It can be that he loves you but takes
     the *L* word so seriously and will say
     it only to the one he'll marry.....
4.  Or, he is shy or it's hard for him to
     say it. 
5.  Yes, give him some extra time, but if 
     at that time he is still not in love better
     move on.....
6.  I highly recommend that you discuss
     the issue of possible feelings to his ex. 
     Don't sweep it under the carpet.
Best regards,