I started dating someone a few weeks ago. I really like her as a person, but I think she is a bit inexperienced with sex, or in other words- we have bad sex.
Good sex is all about communication and practice. There are ways to communicate what you like to your partner without offending them. In order to make her comfortable, perhaps you could begin by letting her know that you want to know how to please her and find out what she likes most. That way the communication process will begin and you should become more comfortable and open with one another. If she sees that you are so eager to please her, she will most likely want to do the same for you. Eventually you will know one another very well. A great emotional connection is much harder to find than great sex, and usually strengthening an emotional connection leads to great sex. So give the relationship a chance! Good luck.
A healthy relationship starts with trust and honesty and a big warm genuine smile.
Great sex is about communication as well as passion. There's a great book I'd recommend called Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex by Dr. Judy Kuriansky. It really helps a couple get to know each other better and enjoy all aspects of the relationship. Hope this helps.
From your description I understand she doesn't even know what is good for her therefore asking her what will please her won't be relevant. No offense, Do you consider yourself experienced? I myself am not sure if I know everything about sex. I think that good things come slwly and with lots of patience, the same way you earned your experience she will. Believe me I think she is aware of that she is unexperienced. Anyways talk to her , all the time tell her whats good for you build up her confidence and guide her . When she'll be confident she will ask you too.
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MY inferiority complex isn't as good as YOURS
I suggest saying things like "you know what would feel amazing...?"then introduce her to a new technique or position.Give her alot of positive feed back when she does it just how you like it.Also awakening her own desire by trying a move on her that she loves will encourage her to return the favor.She'll feel like you're learning together how to please one another, and will become more comfortable with you over time.I know it's tedious work but practice makes perfect :-D!
hey! well yes, i do understand wut u mean....i've been through similar situations. wut u can do is really guide ur new girlfriend and just tell/show her what turns u on. dat way she'll learn as u two go along. but u must tell/show her in a way in which she doesnt feel uncomfortable or embarassed. and u must also give it some time before she totally lets herself go. let her explore and show her new ideas, techniques, positions, etc. hope the two of u have better sex soon! tc!
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Yes teach her. You keep doing it so there has to
put it in her dumper
Be honest and be true to yourself.
You need to be loving, caring, and let her know that you want to enjoy life together and with that in mind , is the enjoyment of making love with each other. Explore the ways that make her enjoy it and then show her the ways that you want to be pleased sexually. That way she will be more receptive and will gladly try to please you too. As the others said, communication is very important so you'll understand how both of your needs will be met.
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