Why do I keep attracting Mr Wrong?

I've been there.....and I've come to find that it isn't me!  And I'm willing to bet that it isn't you either! It is sad, but there are people out there who are just crappy human beings.  And sadly also, you can't identify them right away.  They are sneaky by nature, and they know exactly what to say to a "nice" person to hook them.  We are conditioned as a society to want fireworks and fairy tales, and so we look for it when we are meeting people, and the "shady characters" know this.  These people feed that fairy tale.  They try to sweep you off your feet; tell you what you want to hear; come on strong and pursue you to give you that false image of "the dream".  I've found that the best guys I've ever dated (and the man of my dreams, who I married) have ABSOLUTELY NO GAME.  They are really awkward at talking you up, acting flashy, etc.  They are not always the coolest dressers, flashy car drivers, tab picker uppers; they are just nice people who want to build a relationship on "real" things, not the floss.  I suggest that you try to seek out these people; and I will warn you ahead of time, it's a lot of work.  You have to look for these people--they will not come looking for you.  You will meet them through friends and family (who 99% of the time are looking out for your best interests), or at activities that YOU enjoy. (i.e.--don't look for a date at the gym if you hate working out, you know?)  And lastly, learn to look for the early warning signs.  The whole purpose of dating is to narrow the field;say your last boyfriend had fidelity issues--you need to ask yourself, "What signs did he give in the beginning that he would be unfaithful"  There are almost always little "tells" in the beginning--if you analyze your past relationships, you can learn to identify the warning signs and give "bad guys" the boot before you get emotionally attached.

Ok I haven't read every responce but most all of them seemed to be the same. Alot of us have been there. It doesn't make you a bad person or mean that anything is wrong with you just because these guys are attracted to you. I work in an atmosphere of many men so i know where your comming from. The idea is knowing how do you deal with them. Your pretty ,nice, and I'm assumming maybe a little quiet. Thats what they are attracted to. In their mind they flirt and think your not gonna run spread it to the world. Your safe to them. Now how to deal wtih this. Its nice to be flattered or complimented so smile. You don't have to be rude or ugly toward all of them.  Most of them are harmless but don't lead any of them on. I had one guy that made me so uncomfortable that a few of my guy friends would always be like body guards when he came around.  I did have to finally speak up and put that one in his place.  We all like to be liked it boosts our self esteme just keep your distance and be openly honest  You don't date married men. Sooner or later you will meet that good guy your looking for   I did! Hey and this is 2008 don't wait for him to fall into your lap or wait on an arranged marriage. Find a guy you like and persue him. Keep your standards high and know that if you get rejected hey its his loss. Keep looking.    match.com

well dear there are lot of wolves out there who are pretending to be in really unhappy marriages just to get laid by some innoccent lonely lady.  You will hear all types of excuses and they expect to be pampered by you.  Don't let them take advantage of you.  Tell them you are not available especially emotionally with married folks.  It is too much trouble and less fun.  Find single men and don't look so needy and desperate because that is what most jerks are looking around for so that they can act like the hero saving a damsel in distress but in reality they are just trying to use you for their own selfish needs.  Stay the heck away from such creeps.

Its not anything that your doing, its not you at all. There are many women out there that think they attract the wrong men, I am one of them. I have come to the conclusion that alot of men try to have the best of both worlds, they have a relationship, yet they want a variety. I pity the girl that is in the relationship with these men. I have learned that most of the truly good ones are already taken and that leaves us to weed out the good from the bad. If you do find a semi decent guy, you are lucky if some other girl hasnt "damaged" him in some way shape or form. Yet, we keep going because although it may be few and far between, there are men out there that feel the same way u or I do and ask themselves why they cant find a true, loyal girlfriend. You live to hope that you will cross each others paths. Good luck!

I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you!  Yikes!  You have to stop!   The First Rule a Woman must inforce for herself is : never get intimately involved with a man until you know him,  especially to know that he is single!!   You say you're fairly attractive, and carry yourself like a lady,  there is a lot involved in being a Real lady.  It's about having class, and style, self- confidence and worth, using the brain inside your pretty head.  A lady doesn't  just throw caution to the wind, hope for the best and let herself get taken in by male bimbos!    Don't get me wrong, I got taken in once too,  and I was so offended by it that I made sure that any man who got my attention was going to earn it,  and not waste my precious time.   Not in a bitchy way, but as self-preservation!  You have to get yourself together,  realize your worth again, and start interviewing for the man who (deserves) you... an honest to goodness "Lady"!   He will be a lucky guy and know it!