Not so serious anymore

HI Lo , Is this man a Husband , a X Husband  , a X Boyfriend ? I don't see a problem with taking things slow perhaps preventing the same mistakes or new mistakes you two have made in the past .  Being " so serious "  I am not sure what that means .  Does he mean he doesn't want a committed relationship with you now or ever , wants to also see other women , doesn't want to get married ever , doesn't want to get married for a while  , doesn't want to live together for a while or ever ?  Does he see a future with you or is he just killing time . Perhaps the two of you are not looking for the same things in this relationship .  Perhaps you don't want the same things in life .  If he loves and cares for you I don't understand how it can't be serious , one can't turn the emotions of true love and the depth of their love off with a switch . One can be careful and one can and should take things slow .  How long were you together , how long were you apart .  Who broke off the relationship , was an honest reason given for the break up ?  Was another man or woman involved in the break up ?  Maybe you can explain a little more in what content he made this statement , a little more information to help us get a sense of the relationship then and now .  Give us a sense of who you two are .

As Equus so eloquently stated, your question lacks any substance with which anyone could offer you any reasonable advice.

The quality of your question will often determine the quality of the answer that you receive. That is the mane thing to remember.

Jay

Jay, I always enjoy your visual aids.

Hey Jay ,  " That is the mane thing to remember. "  Very good , great picture . That mane " Do " took some time .

Then take it slow ---- see if it developes into anything more.  Sometimes, this is the best way, as it will clarify whether or not you two are truly suited for each other.  It will also give you time to see how you both respond to different situations and problems that come up.  There are no guarantees in life ---- so I can't tell you that this friendship, or relationship is going to become a permenant thing.  According to what you wrote, take this friendship or relationship one day at a time --- he told you that he does not want to get serious... so respect his wishes for now. He has his reasons. Do you know what they are?  Talk to him and try to clarify (emotionally) how you both feel about each other and whether you should move on or continue  with a friendship or relationship with him.  But you need to clarify and know where you stand  with him and then wheter you are in a relationship with him in the first place.  ---Also, Why did he leave?  ---And why did he come back?  He may be having second thoughts, but until the door to communication is opened up, you many never really know for sure what he is thinking or feeling.  You also have to decide what it is you really want in a relationship as well.  So, with all that said, try to take it one day at a time.

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Yeah, you didn't offer enough information. But, from your phrasing, it sounds like, as the book title says, "he's just not that into you." I would find a new man! Check out this site for new dating... Look at this:

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Lo,

If he is back with you and doesn't want anything so serious, then he is asking for a joke...Is that what YOU ARE in this relationship?  My advise to you is this:  let him live by himself for awhile so he can take it SLOW.  Your life will probably be a little easier too (less cooking, laundry, cleaning, confrontations etc and more time for yourself, family & friends).  Life is short, enjoy!

Blessings,

~ nmpb ~

Sorry, but I  think you should end your relationship at all. He doesn't want anything serious...