As an Adult, how is it that our Parents can still push our buttons and reduce us to feeling like a child? Or maybe I should ask.. does this still happen to you too?
Love is the battery of life....
Hi, Tnx Mrankens for raising that point. I thought about it some time ago and came to the conclusion that our parents know that we respect them and will avoid any confrontation / conflict / arguement with them...... they simply take advantage of that and push us to the corner...... manupulating us to do what they want..... I don't feel like a child in such events but I do feel they are doing it in an unfair way..... I won't do it to my children... that's a promise I give in public.....Best regards,
Deal with it -It wont hurt!
well i read your question and of course i dont know you but i would surmise your speaking of your mother if its your father your speaking of there are instances of it through men but more so with women,you really werent specific(situational explination) In these instances it has to do with control and dominance and key words or phrases that can produce those feelings your most likely unable to tell the parent or parents how they make you feel and i doubt that it would really matter to the parent who is produceing those feelings of inadiquacy in you.I am very willing to speak with you concerning this and perhaps we can talk more at length and reach a conclusion and steps that can be taken to change this cycle of feelings in your relationship with your mother.love dan
Be honest and be true to yourself.
Hi Deborah,
My friend OronD gave you a wise answer, I gave him 2 thumbs up. I still feel my father gives me the impression that he thinks I'm still the same young daughter he had been 40 years ago. He still thinks he knows better. I just tolerate this because Iunderstand him. He wants to feel to be in control still but this does not bother me at all. If that makes him feel that he is still in control and he's acting like a good parent, then let him be.
Take care.
What comes around, goes around, full circle. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. It'll all fall into place. This too shall pass. I'm too Blessed to be stressed.
Here is the thing, your parents will ALWAYS see you as their baby and you will ALWAYS see your parents as you did as a child. That is why they can push your buttons. There is a difference now that you are an adult. You can rationalize WHY this occurs with you and your parents. As an adult I would think that whatever your parents say to you, you would let go of, but that is up to you. REMEMBER, you will not have your parents for long and I suggest that you LOVE them NOW and continue to LOVE them and I think you will find that you are much happier.
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