He never accepts my NO

Obvious;y you are not happy with this arrangement but are afraid to make a change and so you will always be intimidated. But you will also not lived a fufilled and happy life. You must learn to say NO and mean it. If this is unacceptable to him then you should break the bonds that tie you to him in such a way that you lose your self-repect and identity. Seek happiness with someone else who will love you for what you are. I wish you all the luck in this most important endeavor.

If you are firm in conviction, say NO boldly, come what may.

Say No, quit taking his calls and get involved in other things that you enjoy, things that make you smile. Don't be an insecure, week doormat. It is not impossible to focus on the things that make you happy!

that's because he's an arsehole! run away quick

Boy O boy!! if it's like this now!! Think what it will be like if you should marry the guy - total manipulation and control. You are worth more than this. You deserve  better!! Hey- even if you NEVER find anyone other than this jerk you will be happier in years to come because YOU will have your own SELF RESPECT and HAPPINESS. My suggestion get a dog or cat. THEY will show you the affection and be less demanding than he is.

Just what part of NO DON;T he get ?  This guy sounds like a control freak.  Run, get away from him.  If you marry this guy, your life will be pure hell.  If that is your cup of tea, go for it.  Life is to be enjoyed.  If you are not fulfilling your dreams, you are wasting a life time.  If he won't stay away from you, there are legal ways to prevent him from talking to you or seeing you.  Maybe a few days in jail will help him get the point.  I wish you well DoDo, have a great life and enjoy,

Ken Reed Sr

Very simple NO means NO, Tell him that, You clearly are not happy with this man , He makes you feel sinful, and it is not your fault. If he had any respect for you he would respct your disccision. Instaed he does whathe wants and makes you feel guiloty. Get rid of him . And find a person that you have some laughs with, life is to short to waste it with guys like this that dont even make you happy

Ten Basic Rules for Living:

1. Thou shalt have no other gods before me.
2. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image.
3. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain.
4. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.
5. Honor thy father and thy mother.
6. Thou shalt not kill.
7. Thou shalt not commit adultery.
8. Thou shalt not steal.
9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.
10. Thou shalt not covet.

What's my point?  It's ok to say "no."  You're not breaking any laws and he'll just have to learn to deal with reality.  If he reacts badly out of anger, I would stay away from him.  It sounds like he needs counseling, but that's his problem and not yours.  You cannot control, and are not responsible for "his" emotions.

Blessings,

~ nmpb ~