My daughter is beautiful and one of the nicest people you could meet. She also is very inteeligent (a successful lawyer). She is 31 now and has been frustrated for a few years because although she has much dating experience she has not yet met the right guy. Last year she dated a guy for some months but finally ended the relationship, saying at the time that he is a nice guy but she was not intellectually stimulated by him, he lacks ambition (he does manual work on home projects for someone else; she said then that he has no desire to own his own business or do anything other than what he does). At that time, she said she had concluded that they did not want to go the same place in life and never would. Now, a year later, she has become very impatient to marry because she wants children. She contacted him and it appears that despite all she told him when she broke up with him he has agreed to restart the relationship with her. I am so worried, and I really believe she is headed for a very big mistake that will last a lifetime. I should add that as she started to form the idea of contacting him again she started expressing what I consider to be a really twisted idea--that maybe she would just have a short marriage--oh, about 10 years--and the children she would have would last forever. She is way too smart to be deluding herself like this, but all of a sudden she now is acting excited about seeing this guy again, and I don't know what to do. My question: should I or someone else talk to her honestly about the dangers of what she appears to be doing? Or should I just give up, since she is an adult, and do all I can to pick up the pieces later? I am really upset that she seems to have contorted her thinking just because she wants very much to have children soon. I also worry because she always has been a very kind person, and at the heart of it this doesn't seem very kind to me. Another worry is this guy's sense of self: she told him honestly how she felt last year, so why in the world would he want to be with her now?