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Whats up with this ?

My girl dumped me after 3.5 years for a stupid mistake on my part- I teased a tough hardcore dyke for some sex while i (forgot) my girl was on the phone and she heard everything i said and not the dyke jokingly cussing me out. I fought to get her back with flowers at work and candy at home and affectionatly persuing her and confessing my love for her and not wanting her to move on, she took me back, we were a couple for about 8 months when out of no where she made up a story of me messing with another woman i havent had sex with in 23 years cause of a parking ticket my daughter got that she said was'nt hers. now shes dumped me again for no fault of my own and does'nt speake to me and told me to leave and doesnt call or text anymore, we attended a party + when other females are near me she sticks under me and will not leave until all females are gone and then starts the same not speaking to me again--whats up with this ???

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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

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I think she still wants you (therefor won't let other females getting close to you) and at the same time mad at you.  From your notes I understand that you love her, care about her, and want her back..... so you'll have to work hard...... you know:  Flowers, presents, words, movies, notes, letters, SMS, resteurants, attention attention attention...... and re-asure your love time and again.  It will sure work, no doubt ! (she loves you and wants you).   Explain your mistake and promise not to repeat it.
Happy New Year.
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zulul
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If there are problems there are feelings involved. It will take time obviously she still doesn't trust you all the way. You have to gain her trust back , ask her what would make her feel better , what can you do to make her know you want her? She probably won't have an answer but then you can always remind her you asked her before. Oron suggestions are good try this similar question for more:

http://yedda.com/questions/person_love_relationships_flowers_5187102816048/ 
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I think there are unresolved issues there. She's not sure she wants to forgive you, but she's not willing to let go completely. Which means it's basically up to you to decide what you want to do.

If you want her back - do everything within your power to get her back, find out who got the ticket and prove it, woo her, impress her, don't take no for an answer.

If you're not sure - I say let it go.

In my opinion, hers is not the kind of mature behavior you would expect from an adult.
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Thanks Oron - Your right she does still love me (admits "Im still in love with you but i cant trust you") and i her,--oh we're speaking again work related only-- But i did nothing this time, she took a parking ticket (not mine and not my car) knowing she made this up,, so do you think i should pursue her and shower her with flowers and gifts again or wait till she end this charade and approach me.. PS shes been giving hints she wants me to approach her like all of a sudden hanging at places -alone- on the job where i take smoke breaks at the exact time i take my breaks,where she used to avoid like the plague when this BS started. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU 2 !!!!!
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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

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Yes sure but go slowly, step by step, gently..... send hints.... encourage her, let her know what you want..... send her a note.... yes, a flower too..... be ready to go out of your way and even go an extra mile for her..... put energies into it.... but don't over-react.... don't be pushy..... give it the time.... I have a gut feeling that it will work... 
I wish you the best of luck,
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