Wanting more...

my advise is that you un-commit to your girlfriend, but keep in touch.  If you can't be around each other without losing control, then agree to stay away from each other awhile.  If you really like her, which it sounds like you do, then check on her, call her, but keep a healthy distance for the both of you.

You are so young and have so much life ahead of you.  You need more experience in the outside world.  If you are a Sr, then your whole life is about to change, most likely (i.e. whether or not you're going to college, friends leaving, getting a job, living on your own, etc).  Take a deep breath and just relax.  You owe it to yourself.  You don't have to decide anything until your ready.  Just be careful and always safe.  Use a condom always and respect yourself and your girlfriends and  girl  friends. 

Your decision to spend the summer getting the flirty out of your system was a good one.  Be honest with each other and remember that you want to be happy.  Ultimate goal for everyone.  So, take your time, pray like hell and listen.  God really does listen.  You just have to hear him.  So, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.   

Hope this helps.

Hi Chase,

     You are only 21 and that is kind of early to be serious about your "flirty" friend.  There are girls who are just charismatic and flirty without even knowing it or there are girls who really really try their best to be flirty to attract attention from the opposite sex.  But whatever it is with your friend, it does not really matter.  What matters to you now is to get ready to make your life fulfilling and productive in your future endeavors by focusing on your studies, exceling in all your subjects so that you will be a very successful career man later on and will have such a greater chance of meeting nice compatible women.  The problem with the young people nowadays is that they don't use their head, instead they get carried by their emotions, marry the first girl they had sex with and then in the end finds out that this was a big mistake and then just end up in divorce.  The innocent children are the ones who suffer because of their parents' mistake and immaturity.

   So there you go, this is my best advice to you based on what I have seen happen and these happened to my 2 sisters and one brother who thought that they would be running out of men/woman if they did not get married to them.  So now, they have lots of regrets, they said they could have had a better life now if they just used their heads and listened to the good advice of people who had very good intentions for their well-being.

   So young man, please think, you don't want to be regretting in the future because of poor choices and decisions.  You have a lot of good opportunities waiting for you.  I wish you the very best in life and a beautiful bright future.  I wished I had children to give this advice to.

Good luck.

don't treat this as heavy duty.

she isn't.

go out with other girls.

she is goin out with other guys.

if yall r meant 2 b- it will b.

if u aren't- it won't.

have fun.

stop thinking.

have fun. ;)

People rarely marry their highschool sweethearts, it's meant to be a time of exploration and figuring out who you are and what you want when it comes to dating.  I'm not saying to play the field, but if one relationship doesnt work out it's not the end of the world, since especially in high school there are "more fish in the sea" so to speak.  If the girl you were with was too flirty for you, that's obviously something you're not looking for, and if the friend you hooked up with wants to try dating you for a while maybe you should give it a shot.  Keep in mind that it's entirely possible that your relationship with your friend could destroy the friendship if things go badly, though.

The ball is in your court, you just said you decided on getting the flirty thing out. You have to back your decisions, imagine if she didn't how would you feel?