Urgent response requested please!!!!!!

my husband is 100% service connected.  he was medically retired from the army several years before we married.  he receives a sizeable check each month.  we are currently starting divorce proceedings.  he is trying to keep me from receiving any of that pay even though we used that as our major source of income during the marriage.  what he doesnt seem to realize is we used that as a source of income when we bought our house, cars, etc.  he also gets a raise every year for our kids.  with all that said, can he make it so they dont count his va retirement pay in our divorce?