Understanding women

Hi,
It's not "men can't understand women"..... it's your man that doesn't understands you...... (true, you are not the one and only case.....).  The best that you can do is discuss it with him.  Prepare how and what you want to say, find the suitable time (& settings) and tell it to him in a smart sensetive way.  Emphasize that is for the sake of the children. 
Best regards,

What we have here is the age-old fundamental failure to communicate. Men want (aka; need) to solve problems, and women want to communicate their feelings, not necessaily get a solution, and that's pre-programmed by nature, so the man stops listening after a minute or so, already having made up his mind about the solution he thinks you need, and then when you keep talking about it he gets mad. If he doesn't get mad it still doesn't mean he's listening. That's the way it is, unless you're talking about something that's important to him.

i think that you should have a private talk with him, tell him that youre confused, and ask him not to get angry. tell him that this is important to you, and that the kids shouldnt be hearing somethings. best of luck!

Frankly, *I* can't even understand you. If you speak anything like you write, no wonder the guy gets mad. I really am not getting off on being a jack @ss here like most people online are when they write stuff like what I just did--I'm serious.

Second, while it's true that this is not necessarily a blanket indication that men don't understand women, I think that's a fair generalization. Most women are hard to understand, and I say that as a female--I usually don't understand women, either, oftentimes because women are not very straightforward about their thoughts/feelings and expect people to read their minds or signals.

If your boyfriend has a problem understanding you, it's either the way you communicate with him; he's one of those guys who doesn't listen to women, especially when they get upset; or both. If it's the former, then it's up to you to be clear when you're upset about what's bothering you and not come at him as attacking him but just very calmly but clearly. If it's that he doesn't want to hear anything you have to say when there's a problem, then you can't do anything about that except maybe let him know how you feel about his not listening and then kicking him to the curb if he can't correct that problem.

Well, here is the deal find something like talking about the period in front of him with a girfriend and see if he like to here about blood and your cramps...see if he like that? Well, I will try and sit him down and try to reason with him that it is not goid to talk about adult things in front of children. Good luck.

oliana

if dude is not the bio dad then he's on your turf when it comes to your kids. depending upon his age, it sounds like he's got some "control freak" issues typical of males in their 20's & 30's. but for sure he needs to stop comparing you with other women from the past and be very careful not to violate your comfort zones. i ran my wife of 19 years off over some of the same stuff...