I have 4 kids. Their ages are 18, boy, 15, boy, 10 boy, and girl, 6. I understand that they will all go through stages. But, how do I help my 10 year old with his anger? He will help anyone else not from our home but when we ask him to do his chores or anything else for that matter he throws a fit and yells at us, especially me. He makes me feel so bad. I don't know what to do anymore. He says the meanest things possible. I love him with all my heart but when he yells at me or throws a temper tantrum I don't know what to do. I've tried talking with him, but that doesn't work. We've even grounded him, and that makes him so much more mad! He gets so mad, he throws things and kicks walls. After so long from being grounded he doesn't care anymore. When my husband or myself grounds him, one or the other lets him off in some way. I am always in my bedroom because of my illness and because I just can't deal with all the noise and frustration. What can we do? When my husband is home he doesn't really stick to what has to be done, and when he isn't here which is 6 days out of 7, I'm in the room and he does pretty much whatever he wants to as well as the other kids. How do I show and tell him that he is loved but he really needs to adjust his temper and things would be so much better with him and us? My youngest is 6 and she's following what her big brothers do. My oldest is 18 and he isn't any better. He's been in alot of trouble and he is going back to school for the last year before he graduates but he is not doing what he needs to do. I don't know how to handle my kids. I want them to know that if they just get their homework and chores done then they would have the rest of the day to have fun! But the hardest thing for my youngest 3 is doing their chores and cleaning up after themselves. My oldest son was paying room and board in the summer when he had a job, but he got cut because where he was working was only a summer job. We've told him he needs to get another job so we can teach him responsibility, but he doesn't care. His girlfriend stays here most of the time and she doesn't have a job either and she graduated last year. Now neither can pay for room and board! My husband got them a interview with one of his customers and I think they did go but if they can't work together at the same time, I know they won't take it. I tried to tell them that spending all their time together isn't healthy but they don't seem to care! They don't help much at all with the housework. When I ask my son to do something he always has an excuse on why he shouldn't have to do it. For example, I went grocery shoppin the other day and I asked them if theywould be home when I get back to help to bring the groceries in, and they said yes. Soon before I got done shopping my son called me and said they were leaving, when I said that they said they would be here to help, my son said that they don't eat alot of the food and that my other kids would be home from school when I got home so they can do it.I really don't know what to do. They are always running the streets, and without money for gas they will soon be on empty. He doesn't ride the bus, so his girlfriend takes him to school every day, and that takes gas as well. When I asked him what he was gonna do when there was no more gas, he said I'll walk to school. Yeah right!! I know I should be out in the living room with them but with my illness and my back problems, I just can't. And because I can't, they don't clean up their mess or rinse their dishes. On top of that, they eat constantly. Especially in the summer. I can't believe we even make it through summer without starving, the way they eat. If anyone has advice about anger and responsibilities, please let me know.
