Trusting my teenage daughter

ok, im about 16, and ive been with the same guy, and only guy, scince i was 13, my mum never even talked to me about sex, and stuff like that, but me and my boyfriend, have both decided, by ourselves to save ourselves for our wedding night, if u r a christian, and your daughter is too, pull out the bible, and have her read the song of songs,  because, somehow it justs makes you want to wait, it makes you go off and daydream, well, at least for me!lol, me and my BF mat, have these rings that we wear,and at our wedding we'll switch them out for our wedding rings, and he'll keep mine, and ill keep his, so, maybe trust your daughter, because she may actually do whats right!

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my mom never really cared, so, im sure that it'll be great for her to have some one that acually cares, and make sure that she knows she can talk to you, about anything, and if she does have sex, dont scold her, it'll hurt her even more....

Your Christian answer warmed my  heart greatly. God Bless you sister. <3

Btw what version do you read? I read NIV and TheMessage paraphraise.

If she would choose to have sex there's not much you can do about it. Honestly, I had sex for the first time when I was 16 and since the relationship was strong and my boyfriend was really nice, I remember it as a good experience, I don't think it damage my body or soul in any way. However, I do think that some boundaries are in order, not so much because of sex, but because it's important that she know where you stand about it, also, that the boyfriend thing (sex or no sex) will not get her to drop everything else in life. So - no sleeping over at his place and vise versa, have a specific hour she needs to get back home in and so on. Also, though you did talk about sex, it'll be good to get her one of those more modern sex ed books that talk about different dilemmas as well as safe sex and so on. It's important to let her have her freedom and live her life, it's also important for you to feel open enough to share your feeling with her in an honest way and say that though you are happy she's got a boyfriend, you do hope she'll wait to have sex in an older age. The worst thing that can happened is for her to be uninformed and get pregnant or an STD. A broken heart is also a risk, but that one is mandible without lasting trauma usually.

so do i.........song of songs is my fave book....idk why????

but we sit around and read it.......

my mum yelled at me for having a bible....

so yeah.......

glad my story was good.....were actually engaged.......now atleast, and are going to marry when we turn 18.......

my mum was shocked, that we havnt had sex, because the first time she had sex....she was 12!

i never want to be like her!

<3maddie

but....oh well...

so do i.........song of songs is my fave book....idk why????

but we sit around and read it.......

my mum yelled at me for having a bible....

so yeah.......

glad my story was good.....were actually engaged.......now atleast, and are going to marry when we turn 18.......

my mum was shocked, that we havnt had sex, because the first time she had sex....she was 12!

i never want to be like her!

<3maddie

but....oh well...

I think that if you have had the "talk" with her and she has always upheld your trust than maybe you should trust her. I do not know your feelings on birth control but I would bring her to the doctor and talk about if she is ready for this precaution. When my daughter starting dating at 14 that is what I did and it was deceided that she be put on the pill. Now that she is 19 she told me that even though her and her boyfriend started sexual relations 2 years after they started dating the reason she came to me and told me that it had moved up to that level was because I put the trust in her and did not keep pressuring her to do the right thing. So my advice that worked for my daughter was trust her and let her know that if and when she needs to talk about anything you will be there with guidance and understanding. It is important to remember and to make her understand that you are a mother but an understanding mother that will "talk" rather than get all bent out of shape if the discussion needs to go to that level. Remember she needs to know that she can trust you enough to come to you about this matter without worring about if you will start yelling at her. Good Luck.

BTW my daughter is still with the same boyfriend she had when she was 14 and they are now engaged to get married.

I do wish you luck with this matter. Remember bring her to the doctor and talk to him/her about it only if your daughter is comfortable with this. There has to be a neutral ground between the both of you.

ok, I have looked at some of these postings and alot of them are very valid solutions to your little problem. However, the best way that you can make sure that your little girl doesn't do anything she shouldn't, is to first do what you have already done and continue to educate your daughther about sex and the problems that can arise (pregnancy, std's). Secondly, your daughter is to young to be going on dates at fourteen years of age. This means even to the movies. I can tell you through first hand experience that going to the movies is where you reach first base. I think that to keep a child out of trouble the parents should have a monitored get together of the two at the females house. And mom's to make things flow easier at home do not use eagle vision because this just leads to problems with you and your daughter. Instead, no closed doors, no walks down the road, and know the parents of your daughters friends before she goes to slumber parties. It's odd that I am giving this advice because my wife and I had a beautiful little boy in high school. Lucky for us, we both have supportive families that helped us and therefore we were able to graduate high school on time and recently college in 2005. I think the reason why I am writing this is because it was not easy raising a child, taking full time hours in college, and working to provide everyday needs. Would I change how my life has evolved? No, because my life is great however not all young people are as fortunate as we have been. So in closing, talk to your daughter and be her best friend and she will probably tell everything she is thinking and the other stuff you may wonder about.

I'm 21 Now And I had My First Boy Friend At your Daughters age...  All you can do Is be open with her and be her friend but keep the limits of a mother..... Let her know if she needs to talk about it your there.. Yeah she will look at you like your crazy but believe me It really works... My Mom and I had a grate and wonderful relashionship... We were open with one another and she was my best friend... So take my advice. Be a Friend and A Mother at the same time Trust me it will work.. But when you talk to your daughter about sex let her know about teen pregnancy and all the STD'S That are in the world But most of all tell Her if she is going to do it to be safe about it... Because no matter what you do or say she is going to do it anyways I was lucky not to have a baby at a young age but now I'm married and have a beautiful baby Girl of my own and I will use the same advice I just gave you... My mom Gave It to me And I'm Passing it on to you GOOD LUCK