True or False???

Chipmunk, I am not well versed in the Bible so I cannot answer the latter part of your question.

But as far as the first part? ABSOLUTELY NOT! That is NOT true and anyone who tells you that it is may have some sort of an agenda they are trying to get to - such as perhaps getting you to agree to sex?

Chipmunk, it is absolutely no one's business except your own and your partner's as to whether to have sex before marriage.

And it is ONLY up to YOU to decide when you are ready - NOT your partner.

If by some chance it is your partner pressuring you to have sex (and giving you this cockamamie reason) then perhaps you need to question whether this is someone you truly want to be with.

Someone who loves you and has your best interests at heart will NEVER try to trick or cajole you into something you don't want to do - especially something as important as having sex for the first time (or ANY time)!

Please take care,

jkgrandma

You aren't married till you are married. Period Leave the bible out of it. People created God. Oh I am going to catch flack for that statement but it's true!

Hello Chipmunk,

We live under the laws and mores of our country and today you are not legally married until after the wedding. 

 During the Bible days those people lived under the laws of their land. And the mores of their time. 

I agree with Jkgrandma when she says that a person who truly does love you will never trick or cajole you into having sex before you are ready. 

 So much trouble can come from having sex for the sake of having sex when you are not old enough to handle all the emotional trauma that will accompany the outcome.

 I'd say, THINK before you act and WAIT until you are ready which is not now because you are far too young. 

That question you are asking is absolutely NOT True.  You are not married and ready to have sex one year after the proposal. That's absurd and WRONG. No matter what the biblical people did.  NJoy

Greetings Chipmunk:  I haven't heard from you in awhile.  How are you doing, and how are things between your Mother, Boyfriend and yourself? 

Had I seen this question, I would have responded to you immediately sweetie.  JK was most kind and helped me locate your inquiry.  I am not very knowledgeable about computers and do not know all the "ins-outs" of Yedda as yet, once again I thank JK for assisting me in finding your post.

Do you mind my asking, who is it providing you with this information?  I know it's a different world from when I was a teenager, but I, for one, do not advocate premarital sex.  I know you've not asked my advice directly, but I would strongly encourage you to wait until marriage!

You have received good advice from other posters, and I would like to apologize once again for not responding.  So many questions and posts, it is confusing at times, (at least it is for me).

Hugs - TWM

Great news sweetie!  Although I'm sorry to hear about the fights between yourself and Mom. 

How very sweet of you to ask about my son, thank you!  He is just fine now, it was a pretty nasty inner ear infection.  My daughters and husband are in Italy, my son and I are staying behind for awhile.  Our physician said he was fine to fly weeks ago, but worry, worry, worry (a Mother's middle name), or at least this ones.

It sure sounds like your boyfriend and yourself are being quite sensible, most proud of you! 

Thank you for the update dear heart and chat with you again.

Hugs - TWM

everyone interpets the bible differently. i think its once you have sex you are considered married to god, but you still need to get the paper proving it shortly after it. some people say god wants you to wait till you are legal by the government, but the bible was written well before the government was formed. im not here to start a debate, so please dont comment me fighting. but as for the one year thing, i highly dobt it, but i do know if you live in certian states once you have been dating or engaged for 7 years you have a common law marriage. but that dosent really do anything cuz you cant prove it. etc.