Ok I am newly married and my mother in law has caused a lot of problems in my marriage. My husband is to the point where he see's what she is doing and he called her out on a few things. She got mad and is placing the blame on me instead of taking responsibility for her own craziness. My husband told me that his entire life he had to do whatever she wanted him to do or she gave him a guilt trip and told him that he did not love her. She had him believing that his dad was a horrible person and he had done all of these awful things ( not true by the way) and she always wanted her children to make her the center of their world. My husband realizes now that in order to be happy and have a life of his own he has to get away from her. I want my husband to have a relationship with his mother, but he says that it is impossible because she will never stop causing problems. My husband has a younger brother and his mother has always done things to turn them against each other. For example she would tell my husband that his brother said mean and hurtful things to her and my husband would get mad at his brother, then she would tell the brother the same thing about my husband. Now that my husband has called her out on what she is doing he has not talked to her in over a month, in that time his brother has stopped having anything to do with him and me. The problem is before we were married my husbands brother was having a hard time and was about to lose his truck. My dad had given me ten thousand dollars as a present. I took one thousand dollars of that money and gave it to my soon to be husbands brother to help him out. I knew that he would not be able to pay me back and at the time I did not care, I felt that he was family and I wanted to help him. He never personally told me " thank You" or anything, he took the money and nothing else was said. Now he is in a postition where he could pay me back and due to the way Me and my husband have been treated I want every dime given back to me. My dad worked too hard to give me that money and I feel that my brother in law does not diserve it. I want it back!!!! Is that wrong of me??? am I just being mean and vendictive??