what can i do when my girlfriend treats me on and off? when she needs me, 1 call, i be there for her... and when she doesnt need me, she dont give a damn about me at all... what is she trying to prove? im restless thinking of it... im confuse on what to do and what not to do, is she playing with me?
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There are many hypotheses that could be built around that information. I can guess that she is really uncertain - something just normal for a young person.
The advice I can give you is to give her and yourself time and let things get clear, without pushing her or yourself for the sake of having black and white answers.
I can speculate that after some period of time if she really likes you she would change her attitude into a very warm one; if she does not like you she would gradually lose interest in you and leave you (sooner or later). If the latter would be the case it could be quite unpleasant to learn that she stayed with you long after she decided she doesn't like you, only out of habit and not to be alone until she finds the better one for her.
But all that is speculation, let both of you take some time without making fuss out of it. But never ever let her play games on you. Not being sure what she wants is one thing and "treating you like a puppet" another.
Are you sure that this is the case, that she doesn't "give a damn"? Maybe she is just busy at times? Does she have a lot she has to do, and little time?
The important thing is communication. You most likely need to discuss your feelings about this with her. I would choose a time that is not rushed and a time which you are both feeling pretty good.
Let her know what you are feeling to clarify the relationship, and take time to listen to her feelings. Make sure you both have a chance to share your ideas. But really...communicate how you feel. How else will she know? And listen...or how else will you know how she feels?
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She is most probably testing you. She could be trying to see whether you would keep waiting on her hand and foot or you would demonstrate that even your girlfriend cannot manipulate you.
since u guys say that... i think i shud state out some reasons
1. she is younger than me
2. i've already told her how and what i feel as happyyoga said. she's still like that... she claims that she's uncertain, still lost and confuse.
3. she rather hang out with her friends more, when her friends not there for her, then she only look for me.
4. i've do what i can as a bf to her, she still stick with her attitude like that
It is better to tell her directly of how you feel than to just guessing around. But when you tell her, try to have a relaxing and romantic atmosphere. Maybe a romantic dinner at your place, not in a restaurant. It's a public place, sometimes you don't feel comfy enough to convey your feelings with people around you.
I think that you should tell this girl to 1-2-STEP. If she can't respect you enough to even be around long enough to be your girl friend, then it is just not worth it for your sake. If you have already told her what you were feeling and she still treats you this way then she has written it in the stars that "hey this guy let's me walk all over him and I don't have to repect him and I don't have to be around unless it only benefits me" so why should she care about anyone other then herself. It's not healthy for you to allow her to act this way towards you. Because you may be a wonderful, strong, loving and respectable man, but to everyone else you are a weak and desperate man who does not think highly of himself long enough to demand respect from his girlfriend or anyone else. Even though that may not be true. In a normal healthy relationship she should be re-assuring you that without a doubt you make her feel love, laughter, sexy, important, comfort, safe, honesty and devotion, but instead she is making you feel small and worthless, which to me is awful and so cruel to your self asteem and feelings. So any ways if you leave her and she really loves you, wants you and needs you she will come crawling and beg you to forgive her for the way she mistreated you. Then you can tell her then you had better start showing it by firstly taking sometime to figure out that you are for sure no longer confused and uncertain of our relationship. At that point then she can call you and you will work something out. Make sure you let her know real fast that these are your terms and that when she has got her head on straight you can work together to make your relationship healthy and satisfying. Regardless of anything, you deserve a loving and nurturing women who makes you feel strong, needed, loved and very important !!!!
Hope that this will help you.
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She's using you. You have something or can do something that she needs. See what happens if you don't come for her when she's needing you(if i'm right she'll get mad at you and if you do it again probally dump you). If she does she was just using you.
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man, da problem wit fkn pussy is fkn pussy! u do not need shit&abuse so don't hold out yer hands an beg fr shit&abuse, unless u like the taste&feel of shit&abuse.
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