I was in a long distance relationship many years ago. It was very romantic, loving and passionate but we lived in different countries and although he found me a job in his country, I was hesitant of leaving everything I knew to be with him. We were in contact for 6 years and then lost contact when both of us moved simulataneously. I had not seen him for 12 years and then this summer we were reunited over the phone and internet. He has a partner now and I do not but he says he has missed me all these years and although he has been with his partner for 9 years, they have never had children for whatever reason and the first time I spoke to him he brought up the fatc that we'd always planned on having children some day. A part of me feels flattered that he says he still thinks about me and wants to stay in contact, but another part of me thinks the situation is unethical and I want to stay away. He has invited me to go and stay with his family later this year, without his partner knowing. However much I tell myself that it may be easier for him as a man to have contact with 2 women, I still can't seem to break away and feel having contact with him is almost justified as our relationship ended due to circumstances beyond our control. My friends are very for me meeting him to see how I feel, but my family, almost understandably feel I'm setting myself up for disaster. Are the feelings of excitement dangerous or should I at least give myself the opportunity of meeting up with him? A part of me feels that as long as I keep the relationship friendship-based as I have managed up until now, then I haven't done anything wrong. What do you think?
